Im kind of confused. (Plus I'm not sure if this post should go in this topic) I have a boyfriend of 1 year. We are very close and he's usually open minded on issues. But I could never get his close minded vision of homosexuals to change. Hes always saying things like, "I dont have a problem with them as long as they dont hit on me" But I know hes homophobic...Well recently I told him that I fantasize about women(because its NORMAl right?) Well, he totally freaked out and lived into this steriotype about lipstick lesbians! And started asking me if I would ever do a three way with another girl. Hes really sweet and understanding..but this botherd me and annoyed me to boot. I think, he thinks that I dont have a problem with him thinking this way, becasue my friend Emily and I soemtimes kiss each other (on the cheek) and hold hands. We never do this to get attention..I just dont see anythign wrong with friends holding hands. I always thought it was possible for friends to hold hands and not be gay. Can anyone help me to let him know(gently) that I'm annoyed and disturbed with his picture of me like that, and help me to not be so annoyed when he lives in denial about a "hot wet lesbian sex life"? THANKS ALOT!!
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How about something along the lines of "You know, it really bothers me that you keep asking me about lesbian sex and threesomes and things like that, especially since the things you're talking about are really just made-up stereotypes. I fantasize about women sometimes, and I'm really close to my friend Emily, but I don't want to have sex with a woman, and I'd really appreciate it if you'd stop dragging out all those stereotypes."
And I'm going to move this over the Relationships forum, because I think you'll get more responses there.
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