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Kajego
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I have an (internet) girlfriend, and I've been wanting to tell my parents. The thing is, I'm female...and I haven't told them that I'm bisexual; I really want to wait. So basically, I'm torn.

Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.


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Chyna2255
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My advice is if you really want to wait the that is what you should do don't force yourself into doing something your not ready to do
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http://www.scarleteen.com/gaydar/out.html
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This may help a bit.

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Kajego
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Thank you for your help; I just recently told my mother. I'm glad I did, but...she seems to beleive that you have to be one or the other, and that I'll hurt the person I'll end up marrying/living with... We had an argument about it, and things settles down... She also seems to think I need my psycholigist to help me 'sort out my feelings' and 'help with the problem'. Oh, well...It wasn't as bad as it could've been, right? But still... But again, thank you.



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I can only help you using my experience, but if it doesn't feel the right time, then wait a bit. Remember, don't lie if she asks you anything, but there's no obligation to tell her.

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I went to a therapist for a little while (not becuase I'm bi, my parents don't know) and when I told her all she said was "It's just a phase". I didn't enjoy part of my idnetity being dismissed like that!

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yeah thats what my mom said too.. that my friends bi-ness was just a phase. and she's scared that i'm bi (i think i am) cuz i kissed a girl. its weird having parents with different morals or something than you
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If you can find a therapist you know is GLBT-friendly, it could help a lot just getting through any problems you have related to sexuality or anything else - your parents might have done that meaning to "straighten you out" so to speak, but you could turn the tables on them if you do some research and find a therapist on your own ;-)
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