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tigerwolf
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I need advice badly. there is this girl that I have a major crush on, and she says that she likes me too. we are always flirting and finding ways to sit together and at least touch. the other day she came up to me and told me that I looked sexy.
the problem is that she's afraid to tell her family or friends that she is bisexual, meaning that we can't actually date. I'm not going to make her do something she's not ready for but I just don't know what to do. do I keep flirting with her and stay friends? Or do I sit back and wait for her to decide when she wants to date me? I just know how to handle the situation.

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Gaffer
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First of all, welcome to Scarleteen.

Down to buisness. I think you should ask her what she thinks you should do. In your situation I would probably beg her to come out, but that's because I wouldn't recognize what a weird situation that would put her in. She'll probably be able to clear up what exactly is going on with your relationship.

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jazzpenguin
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Talk. Have patience.

Those are the 2 things which I think are most important, and certainly in this case. I agree with gaffer in that you should talk to her about the situation. However, without trying to undermine anyone, and please understand this is just my opinion, I would never ask anyone to come out.

A couple of my friends who know I'm gay have badgered me about coming out completely. I hate it. Who I tell and when I tell is up to me, and nobody should force anyone else to come out.

Just give her time, and let things work themselves out. Strangely enough, they usually do.

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