So, I'm not sure if what I'm about to ask is anything new, but I've had a look around and can't see anything pertaining to this particular question.
I'm 23 and I've never had sex. I'll be honest and say I'm a bit clueless about it. My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I have decided that waiting until marriage is best for us - but, damnit, it's HARD (no pun intended). We sometimes end up dry humping and always feel guilty about it afterwards. It also tends to send me into crazy spirals of pregnancy fear, even though the most contact we've had has been through both of our PJs and my underwear. I know, no pregnancy risk. To be honest, I don't even think he's ever ejaculated on me - I assume I'd notice if he did. But even though I KNOW that, there's still some doubt in some primitive part of my mind. I think this is being caused by the fact that my period is about 4 days late (normally it's like clockwork!) - I know there can be other reasons for this but my mind keeps putting two and two together.
Anyway - to the real question - is there any information on this site, or anywhere you can point me to, that states WHY dry humping isn't really a pregnancy risk? Also, is there anything I can do to ease my mind until I get my period? I won't be able to get a test until Friday, when I get paid - but I've gone to get them before and ended up walking out of the shop in pure fear. I haven't told my boyfriend about my period being late yet because he's just started a new job and I'd hate to worry him, but if it goes on much longer and my head is still fried with all of this worry, I might ask if he can pick me up a pregnancy test instead.
I'm going to do all I can to nip this in the bud, because I'm really looking forward to having positive sexual encounters within the context of marriage. We've talked a lot about abstinence and what it means to us, as well as our personal boundaries, but sometimes we do get carried away.
Thanks for any help!
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And then please review this for us, okay? We really do need to limit how much time we spend trying to convince people about the basics of reproduction, because more times than not, we're trying to combat unreasonable fears with logic, and logic can't hold a candle to that, you know?
Really, the best way of easing your mind with these things would be to opt out of any kind of sex you don't feel good about or comfortable with, and clearly, for you, it sounds like dry humping falls in that category. If this is about religious beliefs, then religious guilt is probably at play here, and again, facts aren't likely to combat that.
How about the two of you set some bigger limits or, if you're going to keep engaging in this kind of sex, take some time together to get some more education and information about it so you can know what does and doesn't pose risks of pregnancy?
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