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BabyGur15
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I'm 15 and pregnent and i just found out how do i tell the dad ( my now ex-boyfriend)?
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Heather
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Well, what's the situation here?

Was there a birth control failure, or was none used? What's your relationship like now?

Do you intend on terminating, doing adoption, or parenting? If it's the latter, do you want him to be involved? If it's the former, are you looking to him for help paying for the abortion?


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hey i was pregnant at age 15 and i kept mi son now and i wudnt give him up for the world i was quite scared tellin the father aswell n we had broken up to he was upset at first but now he is proud of his son even tho we dont see thm tht much bt it is a very big life change and ur hole life style changes 4 the baby
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Me and the dad are on again off again type of couple i plan on keeping it but my dad said i am never to talk or see him (billy the baby's dad) again. i want him to be involed but how can i cause of my dad? he real seems to want a baby but we never talked about this kind of stuff you know me getting pregnant
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Well, since you didn't answer my initial questions, it's a bit harder to know how to answer these.

But a partner who has unprotected sex yet never considers a possible pregnancy isn't exactly the greatest vote of confidence. And it's unsurprising that your father doesn't want you seeing this guy, especially if there are also other troubling factors in the mix like, for instance, if he's notably older than you are.

Had you yhet told him when contact was cut off? if so, how did that discussion go? Has he SAID he wants to be involved? You wanting him to doesn't mean he will be: the only real legal power you have is in obtaining child support funds, not co-parenting.

What I might suggest is asking your father is this guy can come to your house, is a supervised meeting between all of you to discuss this. Given your age and the fact that your folks are likely going to be the people who bear the most responsibility here, after you, and likely will trake care of a lot of financial and practical stuff, it's not invalid or out of line from them/him to be angry, to want to set firm limits.


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