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MiSS_MaY
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okok.. she is 17 very young.. she has her whole life ahead of her...i also know she is not ready....
i'm 16 and i've been pregnat witch is one of the reasons why i turned 2 celibacy.. but anyway she is just in love.. witch by the he is an a**hole... but not ready for a kid.
i just think she should wait... i love her she is my buddy.. i dont wanna see her struggle thru her life with a kid...
what should i say or do??? i think i'm more stressed then her


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Gumdrop Girl
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ultimately, you need to udnerstand that the decision is hers.

but yes, you can help her make a SMARTER decision by pointing out the pros and cons of having kids right now, and support her in finding alternatives to becoming a mommy right now.

  • suggest to her things like a LOT of babysitting. if you have infants in your family, maybe your relatives will let her take care of the baby overnight.

  • talk to her about the importance of preparation. ask her things like "what kind of clothes do you want you baby to wear, or what toys you'd want the baby to have." then ask her how she's going to make enough money to provide those things. also ask her how she's going to provide for herself because it's SELFISH to have a baby when you're still being raised by your parents 'cause that puts extra burden on her parents.

    check out the following links for info about your cousin's situation
    I Want A Baby NOW!! http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum10/HTML/000300.html http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum10/HTML/000269.html

    and if all else fails, maybe you can tell her parents what she's planning. she might get hella pissed off at you, but at least no innocent parties (like children who don't ask to be born into their wacked out situations) will be harmed.

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    this one's worth reading, too http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum10/HTML/001108.html it'll give you lots of ammunition in any arguments with your cousin against having a kid.

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    MiSS_MaY
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    thanx 2 every1.... i 'm going 2 sit a have a talk with her 2night i'll keep u guys up

    ~may


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