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i am 23 years old my boyfriend(that lives with me)and i have had unprotected sex almost everyday multiple times a day for a couple months, it slowed down the past coupld of weeks because im in school and he works a lot, about 2 weeks ago we had sex in the morning and then i got my period (which was 4 days early and im always on time) but it was lighter and shorter than usual. i am not on birth control either. i have never gotten cramps or anything so it was unusal to me that once my period ended i had cramps and i have had them for about a week. my lower stomach and legs are soar as wel as my back. i have been very tired lately and feeling naseaus. i am unsure of what to do since i know it is too early for a test and i dont want to scare my boyfriend and tell him and go to the doctor. is there a chance im pregnant or is it just a coincidence?
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Unless your boyfriend is just plain daft OR fully prepared to be a father, you'd think he'd be scared enough already.

You have BOTH been foolish (if, that is, you ARE unprepared to parent and unwanting of pregnancy), not just one of you. So, you carrying the worry of this all by yourself isn't fair to you at all.

If your most recent risk was less than ten days ago, it's too early for a doctor's test as well.

Might you be pregnant? Maybe. Might you also instead just be stressing out like crazy and getting physical symptoms because it's struck you that you two have been really irresponsible? Yep. Either way, you'll have to wait it out for the test.

In the meantime, I STRONGLY suggest two things:

1. Stop making bad choices for yourself. Step up, stand up and act in your own health and best interest. If you aren't ready for responsible sex, with consequences you and your partner can live with, BOTH of you should wait for sex until you both are.

2. Tell your boyfriend you ARE doing so and demand the same of him. Like, yesterday. You live with the guy, for crying out loud: making this simple of a responsible choice shouldn't be that tricky for either of you. And by all means, neither one of you shouldn't have been scared all along.

[This message has been edited by Miz Scarlet (edited 10-07-2005).]

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Also, if you and your partner are trying to become pregnant, then now would be a good time for a full physical & STD screen for both of you. Before trying to become pregnant, you always want to have a full check by your health care provider and to discuss a possible pregnancy with your physician. He/she can provide information about how to make your body as healthy as possible and how to provide the best possible conditions for your body to conceive. He/she can also provide information about charting your cycles/etc. that may help speed the process along.

Miz Scarlet is right though, if you don't want to become pregnant at this time, then you and your partner both need to start making some more informed choices about protecting yourselves (because you've probably just been lucky up to this point, and luck always runs out eventually).

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