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inkie
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Just out of curiousity, do you think its wrong for a 15 y/o to get pregnant on purpose by a 20 y/o old? Thanks!
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DarkChild717
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Morality aside, please remember that in most places, that would be very illegal as per the age of consent laws, and would very likely cause the 20 year old to end up in very big trouble.

For more details, please see this. It details the age of consent laws in the United states and around the world.


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DarkChild is very right. In most places that would be illegal.

But that aside, why would you want to get pregnant at such a young age?

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Well, we see lots of posts in this forum from people who are considering having children, or who really want to have a child right now instead of later, so I don't think it would be uncommon for someone who's 15 to want to have a baby.

However, I would be worried about *anyone* -- regardless of age -- who was conceiving a child by deception, because I think that that's a really lousy way to create a new life. And with any of my friends or acquaintences who get pregnant, I'd also be worried about things like how the person was going to finish their education and acquire job skills, how they were going to support themselves and their child, where they were going to live, what kind of emotional support they had -- and I'd worry about these things regardless of how old they were. However, being 15 means that they can't drive (and if they live in a place without good public transportation, that handicaps their ability to get places), they can't work the same amount of hours that most adults can do (in many states, work laws are different for people under 18), and they can't do a lot of things that "legal adults" can do, which makes it harder for them to tap into various support systems, so I'd be even more concerned.

Do I think it's "wrong?" I don't know if "wrong" is the word I'd use -- I'd probably say that I didn't think the person was really thinking about the long term consequences of her actions.


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quote:
Originally posted by inkie:
...15 y/o to get pregnant on purpose...

hun, if u want to have children, thats great. just one thing though, wait until ur body is ready to handle it. at 15 i thought i was done growing, but nope not at all. height yeah, but the summer of 18 my hips grew, my breasts grew more, and i realized that it was really good that id m/c-ed when i was 16. if i had remained preggers at that age, i would have had a much more difficult time giving birth.

keep your desire, but let ur body mature a little more. maybe ull still be with the guy when ur more ready physically. it was mature of u to ask though!

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About them age of consent laws. I live in California. A very good friend of mine from high school was engaged to his girlfriend. she was pregnant. they were thrilled when she gave birth, she put his name as the father on the birth certificate. She was 17 at the time, he was 19. The police came and arrested him later that day. Her parents didn't even press charges -- they loved him! But they had to bail him out.

Unfortunately, I lost touch with him in recent times, so i don't know how they're doing.

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I'd be more worried about the 15 year old part. I'm 17 now and jeez, if I had a baby...you'd have to be a pretty mature 15 year old to be able to handle taking care of a baby on your own. And it'd be really important for you to provide a good life for your kid...so you'd need to at least finish high school. My advice? Postpone getting pregnant for a while. Babysit! Get a dog! Get used to having responsibility for something that is totally dependent upon you for survival. Just give yourself more time to mature, and then make a choice based on how well you think (realistically) you could take care of a baby. Good luck.
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