I have seen a few people/articles about wanting a baby at the age of 14, girls that is, but what about boys. I've always wanted, yearned after a kid but ive not pursued it (mainly due to financial reasons) i was wondering if this is unusual, as it seems as though its mainly girls who want babys badly.
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how old are you Blaze_of_glory? I think it's normal for guys to want to have baby's at a young age, but for those who do, they always think of the financial situation I've noticed...at least, my boyfriend did as well...hmmm interesting..
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Girls contemplate having a child a lot more I think. I think it is sort of a biological clock ticking type of thing. I can remember being 18 and bringing it up to my then boyfriend. I had thought we would be together forever. He freaked out, needless to say. I think guys think they have their whole lives ahead of them, whereas females realize they aren't going to be fertile forever. I also think part of it is a maturity thing. It's a fact that girls mature faster then boyz, so they think they are ready earlier.
Personally (based on observations, and personal experieces), I think young women/teenagers, want children because it is a novelity, and they want someone to love them unconditionally. Afterall, the teenage years aren't easy, and sometimes it feels like having a child to love you unconditionally would solve all your emotional problems. If only I could tell every single one of them, what it is like to have a child! *sigh*
Well, that is how I view the world.
When the time is right for you to have a child, you will know it.
west, im 16,17 in a couple of months, i think of the finacial reason, as i would hate to bring up a child in poverty, ive seen so many children in poverty, and its horrible, when finacialy secure (shouldnt be too long, got a good job now, need a flat of my own though) i will probably want a baby even more Posts: 13 | From: England | Registered: Jun 2002
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Let me tell you a story. When I was 19...a freshman in college. I fell in love with the guy I KNEW I was going to spend the rest of my life with.
About 2 months into our relathionship we got engaged, and a month after that we BOTh decided we wanted a baby.
YOu know what happened? Once we actually thouht I was pregnant it was DEFIATELY not the way we thought it wowuld be. WE both got a REALITY check. We hadn't finished college at a 26,0000 dollar a year university and we couldn't handle it. It became a HUGE point of contention between the two of us. And mae ME...the one who wanted the baby the most a nerveous wreck, and we're not together anymore..thankfully.
Anyway the point was we BOTH originally wanted the baby, so the answer to your question is. Both..at least in that case.
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