I just figured I'd search and see if I was experiencing something. I'm 16, and I masturbate frequently (Yea, I said it.) and I find it sometimes difficult to become very hard, it doesn't happen often. I'm about 5.2 erect, give or take. But I'm not sure if that could tell you anything about this, so I listed it anyway. I'm pretty close with some of my friends, and one of my friends said his erection becomes very hard, and im not sure if that's the case for me. I can't keep it very hard long, but I do masturbate a lot, I don't know if that's just causing me to have low libido. I masturbate sometimes one session a day, or every 2-3 days. I sometimes think that if I hold my penis vertically to me, to form a 90* angle, it looks and feels harder, then if I let it touch my stomache. I could just be bored with looking at porn and regular masturbation, but there is a possibility of a sexual encounter. I'm still a virgin so I wouldn't know if I would actually be more aroused by my girlfriend, then I would if I were to masturbate; if there were to be a difference in hardness. I should think not. But when I gain erections through out the day, when they just happen, they don't seem very hard, noticeable, but not very hard. I want to be able to have a hard penis, I want to be normal. :P Let me know guys, this is a serious question after all.
Mastubating a lot won't lower your libido. However, masturbating so much that it loses it's luster can. Believe it or not, arousal starts in the brain. If you don't want sex (or in your case, to masturbate), than yeah, no matter what you do, it may not work that well anymore.
Really, how "hard" you penis gets isn't a big deal. And frankly comparing yourself to your friend isn't going to do anything but make you unhappy. There isn't anything normal or unnormal here, it's all how your percieve things. Besides, guys tend (I hate stereotypes, but I've found this one to be true) to make a big fuss out of erections, and as long as they can one-out their friends for size, hardness, whatever, they are OK.
By all means, if you are bored, that is a very good reasons for you to be having trouble to gain erections. But a better reason is low self-esteem. So stop worrying about all the other guys and how hard their erections are, and realize that there is no normal.
[This message has been edited by JamsessionVT (edited 11-21-2005).]
Honestly "hardness" isn't necessarily all it's cracked up to be. I've had a couple times when I've gotten really aroused and my penis got extremely hard. It got so hard, in fact, that it was actually painful to sustain the erection. In general I prefer my penis semi-erect, because it is more sensitive that way, and I can bend it to rub it against my leg (this is my prefered form of masturbation). When it is too hard I have a difficult time stimulating myself. I also frankly find my semi-hard penis much more visually attractive. Anyway, basically the point is don't worry about whether you get "hard-ons" or "semis".
I read someplace that the cultural emphasis on the "hard-on" is an American or Western thing, and that other cultures value the "semi" much more. Is that true?
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I know exactly what you're talking about. In the band we have 2 different kinds of erections. The masturbation erection and the affectionately called, "Chevys*" Now, don't worry, because No Way Back is here to help.
Cactus- When I have a masturbation erection I normally just go and do the deed. Yet, when I'm aroused by a female, I get a chevy. Now, don't worry about this, it's nothing to worry about, your libido is perfectly fine.
Mr. Mondo- sup ya crazy mofo, same here i masturbate and it up for like 3min. but with female it last forever so ya ok man dont worry.
Bloodbath- Well,i just finished things by myself with my maxim magazine=). but anyway the best thing is to go to your local supplement store and pick up a Nitric Oxide supplement and it will make your jackin off boners like an erection you'd get if u were messin around with a chick or sumthin but yeah thats about the best advice i can give, theres not much you can do to help your situation
Well, there you have it, three out of 5 ain't bad, is it? Too bad the Snowman and Mike aren't here. Well, I hope this helps! -CJ, MM, BB
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NoWayBack, your handle is illegal according to Scarleteen guidelines. When you signed up you agreed that a handle belongs to one person, not to friends or bandmates. If you all wish you use the Scarleteen boards, you need to register on different handles, not use the same one.
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Nitric Oxide is an ingredient in erection aids like Viagra - it is *not* meant for healthy young men who don't have physical erection issues. In addition to what Jam has mentioned, putting forth dangerous or sketchy medical advice is not helpful here, so please double check before suggesting supplements and the like.
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