I'm sure this is a topic often dealt with. I have a large labia, stretched from pulling on it when I was very very young from just plain curiosity. I don't really care, there's nothing I can do about it now besides surgery, which is rather drastic. But it becomes a nuisance when wearing a bathing suit, it causes a small but noticeable lump between my legs, and so I am self concious while at the beach and can't fully enjoy myself. Is this a problem with anyone else, and how do you deal with it?
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Unless your sitting around with your legs spread or your labia are several inches long, I wouldn't worry about it. I can almost promise that the only person who will notice a small lump between your legs is you.
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For starters, I highly doubt you stretched out your labia in any way. It sounds to me like you have very normal labia; the problem you're describing with swim suits is something I think the majority of women actually face. The key is finding a proper fitting swinsuit most of the time and you also have the option of wearing shorts or a sarong over your suit as well for when you're not in the water, if it really bothers you.
And I think tinyrebel is right, the reasonm this "lump" is noticable is because you're aware of it and are therefore looking for it and noticing it because you can look and think, "Oh my gosh, my labia!" Anyone else interacting with you at the beach is not going to be looking at you and think, "Oh mu gosh, her labia!" Plus, like I said, the way a woman's body is built makes it so tighter fitting suits will basically make a "lump" in that area, it's simply how the labia are built, big or small.
I have the same issue! In the locker room it seems every girl is flat there and I'm not, I have a noticible bump in the middle due to large inner labia. It makes me really self concious. Any suggestions on how to make it less noticible? I'm self concious to the point of where I'm 90% sure I'm going to get surgery when I can drive on my own.
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Before you head to the plastic surgeon, I suggest you consider whether it's worth scar tissue, loss of sexual sensation, and the potential for recurrent infections (among other things). My inclination is to say that it's easier/better/safer to fix your self esteem than to go cutting things off your body that are NORMAL and are supposed to be there. That type of genital modification often leads to the formation of scar tissue and it can cause a loss of sensation and other issues. Additionally, if you lop off part of your labia, they can't do their job of protecting your vagina from bacteria -- which can lead to infections.
Here's the thing, your labia are totally normal. How many labia have you really seen in real life? Many many many women don't have little tiny labia. Which shouldn't be too surprising considering the fact that part of their function is to protect the vagina, which can be best accomplished with a bit larger labia. Again, it sounds like you're completely normal here.
I'd really suggest just not worrying about this. There are so many other things you can be doing with your time and energy other than nitpicking your body.
I have the exact same problem!! I usually wear shorts when swimming but thats alos just cause im too lazy to shave my bikini so it hides that too. I've never really noticed it on anyoen else, and as someone previously said that it seems like everyone else is flat there. Oh well there isnt much we can do. I also have the fear of having a guy be surprised by how big it is but if he really likes me that wont be a problem i guess.
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Isn't it interesting and curious to hear women concerned that men will see their genitals and be in some way alarmed or dismayed by their size?
Especially considering that: a) our culture tells MEN they want to be in exactly that scenario per THEIR genitals, and b) there is no physiological or medical basis in expecting any aspect of the female genitals to be diminuative or invisible, and c) just like penises, vulvas and their parts come in all shapes and sizes.
Just think about it. If you find yourself obsessed with the idea your genitals are too large, even after a medical pro has let you know they're 100% normal, you're being hoodwinked by a pretty ridiculous and inaccurate sexist double-standard.
Labia aren't just functional: they're full of nerve endings, and they're connected to the clitoris. So treating them like an inconvenience or something to deal with is just plain silly, especially when they can provide substantial sexual pleasure.
(And for the record, mature partners of any gender don't tend to be dismayed by generous labia, especially if they've seen more than one or two vulvas in their lives. Vulvas are seriously unique and vary a whole awful lot, so if anything, when you have a new partner's vulva under your eyes, you're simply noticing the uniqueness of it, and generally, in nothing but a good way, the same way any partner geeks out on the uniqueness of any aspect of their partners body.)
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