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PrettyInP!nk
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Hello there kiddles.
I'm wondering if anyone has any tips for me. I weigh from 8 to 8 1/2 stone. It changes all the time, even during the day. I have become a bit weight-obsessed, because every time I go into my kitchen [where the scales are, for some strange reason] I weigh myself. I don't so much mind my weight, but it's how I look. I noticed that I'm starting to get cellulite on my butt and at the top of my legs. When I noticed this I was horrified, and started replacing all the sweets I eat with fruit and healthier things. But this has made no difference.
Until now, I have always been happy with my body because it was smooth all over, and there was no way I would call myself fat. But now this cellulite is appearing, it's making me quite depressed and rather ashamed.
One of my best friends said it was because I'm growing, but if it is that then why do models etc not have this cellulite on their butts? They're older than I am!
I know there is no way that this cellulite is appearing simply because I am growing. I want it to go away, how can I do this? It's getting me down quite a bit.

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Heather
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Cellulite generally can't be controlled by diet, and whether or not someone gets it (and most women will tend to get some at some point) isn't about weight, but mainly about genetics. Very thin women and average-sized women have cellulite, too. You don't see it on models because either a) those models don't have it, and/or b) those photographs are retouched. For that reason, you also tend not to see stretch marks, grey hairs, wrinkles or zits on models.

120-125 pounds is not overweight, even if you're less than five feet tall. That's a perfectly low-to-low-average weight for most people. Might be time to worry less about your weight and more about your obsession with it and your appearance.

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PrettyInP!nk
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I think I'm quite right to worry about my appearance and have this, what you call an "obsession", with it. I'm afraid I don't want to let myself go, I don't want to become someone who doesn't care about how she looks. I'm 15, of course I care how I look and weigh.
I'd appreciate and TIPS from anyone who has any, because I'm obviously not getting any from Miz Scarlet.

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Remember that most pictures of models will have been edited so much that you probably wouldn't recognise them in real life.
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What tips do you expect? It can't be controlled by diet as Miz Scarlet said. You are no where near overwieght, and unless you walk round naked all day, no-one but you is going to notice anything. Even if you did walk round naked all day, everyone else is too worried about how they look to notice anything wrong with you.
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PrettyInP!nk
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If I knew what tips I was expecting, I wouldn't be asking any of you.
This isn't about how people see me, it is about how I feel about myself. I won't be anything other than myself just to please another person. But I still want to feel good about myself, which I don't right now.
I know that pictures of models get edited, but I was only using models as an example. Other older women don't have this problem like I do, I was trying to get that point across.
I came to this website for help, but I'm obviously not getting any. I seem to just be getting bitchy remarks.

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Heather
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Actually, what I gave you was honest advice. The "bitchy remarks" appear to be stemming from you and you only, and I'd suggest you curb them ASAP.

Other people don't have big noses, either, but some of us do, for the same reason some of us have cellulite: which is, as I stated above, mostly genetics. One can't change one's genetics.

As well, over the years, there have been a lot of different attempts at reducing cellulite or its appearance, and so far, very, very few of them (lotions, diets, potions, special types of massage, etc.) have proven to make any noticeable difference whatsoever.

There are some aspects of our bodies we simply have to accept, and that's the truth. And if it's about feeling good about ourselves, that's a pretty easy answer, since accepting the "flaws" (if you choose to see them as such, and that's a choice) about our bodies and selves is a big part of that.

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Gumdrop Girl
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if you have negative body image (and it is pretty apparent that you have that to some degree), then check this out:

Body Image Boot Camp (Improving your Body Image) http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/001852.html

it's a few things you can do to improve the way you feel about yourself.

As for the cellulite, AlwaysWorried is right. Models are airbrushed, and Adobe Photoshop is some amazing software, lemme tell ya. My junior high gym teacher had cellulite, and she was a walking Barbie doll. It happens to everybody.

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My tip for you is this:

As both Miz Scarlet and AlwaysWorried pointed out, most of those pictures you see (even if they aren't models) are airbrushed, retouched, etc.

As Miz Scarlet said you have to accept your "flaws." I won't say learn to like them, because honestly their are some parts of ourselves won't like, and probably never will. However, learn to accept them, they are appart of you! Most women generally do have cellulite, but most of the time you can't see it because it is usually covered.

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"I am the sum of my parts and infinitely more so. The hum of my brain, the curve of my torso. The spark of my wit, the depth of my heart. Size is no measure in such a work of art" (from a Hanes Her Way ad)


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PrettyInP!nk
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Thanks everyone, especially Gumdrop Girl... that thing about your gym teacher made me feel better :P
And sorry to Miz Scarlet, I know you were only trying to help. It's just that I am kinda stressed over this.

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If you're having image issues. I picked up this months Glamour & Cosmo 'zines. They have a lot of positive things about women hating their flaws. I myself have cellulite, and I ride a horse everyday of the week 2 hours a day. I compete do dressage & hunter/jumper. I'm not too thrilled about my cellulite, but ya know... it's a part of you, and like Miz Scarlet said, it's genetic. There's girls walking around who's hip bones stick out, and they look like death eating a buscuit, and THEY TOO have cellulite. Amazing as this sounds, the older you get, guys really aren't going to pay attention to your flaws. It's like starring at your face and picking out a blimish here, or a freckle that you could do without. Guys don't really see it, unless you point it out. But if you're really self-conscience about your body right now, just don't wear anything that'll show off what you don't like. You'll eventually grow to be comfortable in your own skin. Anda again, I highly recommend going out and getting this month's Glmaour & Cosmo magazine. Glamour has 3 women on the front, and Cosmo has Brittany Murphy on it's cover. Don't worry so much, be happy!!

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Milke
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Is it really such a flaw to have a normal body? Or something that's worth losing sleep over, or devoting huge amounts of time and worry to?

Being a cruel person is a flaw. Being hateful is too, but spending your time and energy on something that's not worthwhile is just foolish. There are lots of problems in the world, and lots of situations that need help, and *can* improve with just a bit of effort. I think the big problem we're looking at here is mixed-up priorities.

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