I'm slightly obsessed with my hair. Brief history: about three years ago, my hair was long and I think I liked it, can't really remember. Then for the next two years up till now I kept cutting it very short and hating it every time I did. Right now it's basically shoulder-length and cannot be called particularly long or short.

For the past year I've hated my hair so much I've cried over it at times, but I'm sure that also had to do with overwraught hormones and such.

My hair is thick and loosely wavy, and not particularly silky. I hate, in the strictest sense of the word, the texture of it. In addition, its color is a middling mud-brown. Does anyone else really, really dislike their hair? Or did you ever? If so, what did you do about it?

I know this seems amazingly petty and egotistical, it's just an issue I have that I cannot seem to ignore. I'd really appreciate any imput/experiences from anyone else.

I found the only thing that makes me happy with my hair is a visit to a professional! They are the only people who can tame it. I try to get my hair relaxed with either a straightner, or gel, whenever I visit.

Maybe you should visit a reputable hairdresser and ask them to go wild and figure out what best suits you. Let them take over, and you may end up with a style that you love.

I too cut my hair short, when I was in 11th grade. I kept it short all through 12th grade, but by the time I went off to uni, I wanted to grow it out again. Between May 2000 and September 2001, I did not get my hair cut at all, not even a trim, and in that time my hair went from definitely short to definitely long (about mid-way down my back). In September, I had to get about two inches cut off because my split ends were pretty bad. However, my hairdresser said that they were as bad as someone's who hadn't had their hair trimmed in 6 months. When I told her that it have been 16 months since my last haircut, she was very surprized, and put it down to two factors:
1- I don't blow dry my hair
2- I don't dye my hair

Mine is a medium brown. It's very soft and sorta silky, and a little past shoulder length. The color is a little boring, so I want to get highlites soon.

I'd suggest what entropie said -- go to your hair sylist and let them take over. They've had experience with this, so they'll know what will look best on you. Have fun!

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Also, i have a hair color similar to yours jenni, and to spruce it up i just get highlights to make it lighter. Its not really blond, just sorta redish-orange-brown. its fun.

And as for having thick hair, just think about how you'll probably never have to worry about thinning hair.

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"Everybody thinks i'm such a horrible person, but i have the heart of a little boy. In a jar. On my desk." -Stephen King

For about 14 years of my life, it was long. I hated that. It didn't suit me at all. Then I got it cut short (like, the length that enables me to spike it, maybe a little longer) and I've loved it ever since.

i stopped getting regular haircuts in 10th grade. at that time, it was halfway down my back. at its longest, it extended past my butt. I could sit on it.

but i got tired of it. Never hated it, but found it really inconvenient. my hair was getting caught in doors, on chairs, and i'd always have to hold onto it in the bathroom so it wouldn't fall into the toilet bowl.

so dec 22, 2001, i got it all chopped off. i sent a 28 inch bundle of hair to a charity and looked in the mirror and grinned gleefully at my new shorn locks. i liked my hair before, but i **LOVE** it now.

as for hair maintenance, i seldom blowdry, but i do dye. just my bangs, though. i dye those blonde, so i have these two bright blonde streaks framing my face. but 4 years of peroxide have done damage to those strands. you can feel the dfference. they're lighter in mass, stiffer, less springy. they feel frail because they are. this is why i do not ever want to dye al my hair. it'd never recover.

now, this is something i don't say very often, but have you checked out any teen mags? they're pretty flimsy for sex advice, but they do have a lot of hair, fashion and beauty.

in around last semtember, 2001, i did the most drastic hair cut ever, i went shorter than i ever had, kinda like where you can spike it, but a girls hair cut, u know?, the shortest before that was the middle of my neck.

in about november, i decided to grow it out again, i got teased a little, and different things.

it was in so many different layers, im still growing it out,my longest layer is about chin length, and my shortest layer is right above my hair, if i pull it straight down "very curly" especially when its short. i want to be able to just put in up like i had it i middle school, then atleast, WELL, i could put my disscusting hair up right now, i just put gel in it.

i know ppl say you grow 1/2 inch a month, but it seems lke my hir has only grown, 2 inches since november, instead of 4, maybe it just my imagination.

hw long do u guys think it wll take for the hair that is right above my ear, to get chin length?

Stephanie- I cut my hair to a little below my ears last year (VERY drastic for me) and I too have quite slow-growing hair. After a month, I was already figuring out how long it would take to grow it back out. So I totally sympathize with you, waiting is awful (it's been over a year and it's still not long enough, with only one trim). I've heard hair grows slightly faster in the summer, so hopefully that will make you feel a little better.

The ends of my hair just curl/wave in random directions, so trying to tame it is a mess. Ugh.

Today I wore it sort of down, sort of pulled back without blow-drying it or anything and by the time I got home it looked like complete crud. It usually isn't that bad... oh well.

Difficult hair owners unite! lol. Down with the pantene commercials.

mazz, about them frizzies. Have you tried a short style with some mousse? short spiky styles seem pretty "in" these days, and they're easy to do. Just dampen your hair slightly then get a little mousse and scrunch your hair. quick, easy and totally sassy

you said you cut your hair right below your ear, right? in 1 year, how long did it grow, about what length?

and do u believe some people hair grows slower than they say it should?

Many of my friends' hair grow definitely faster than 1/2 inch per month. Mine grows right at that rate or slightly slower. I think it's definitely possible your hair could take longer than others to grow out. And yes, it really, really sucks. Even now when it's where I THOUGHT I'd be happy with it I'm not. Urrrgh the wait...