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Heather
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Having recently been inundated with posts regarding penis size in regards to sex, labial size in regards to sexual body image, breasts in regards to sexual attraction and the link, I'd like to take a moment to sponsor a brief reminder about our bodies.

It isn't just propaganda: the largest sexual organ in every body is the brain, and it is the brain which is largely responsible for the root of ALL sexual response. Given that, people can be sexually aroused and fulfilled by ANY part of the body, by any sort of idea, and by a WIDE variety of sexual partners, ideals and activities. In fact, that wide variety is necessary for human survival as a species. If it didn't exist, we'd have gone the way of the dinosaur, kidlings.

In addition, yet another reminder: bodies and genitals are not just here for sexual attraction or sexual purposes. Largely, WE decide what is and is not sexual, what we do and do not find sexually arousing, and we can all do that regardless of our genitalia, of the state or appearance of our bodies and so forth. There are people who are happy, fulfilled sexual beings who do not HAVE functional genitalia at all. There are people at 60 whose bodies are well beyond the pristine state of the cultural physical ideal who feel sexy as hell and have wonderful sex lives and body image.

So, a little perspective can go a long way. More times than not, despite cries that the media and culture sexually objectify, PEOPLE sexually objectify. I see people do it here incessantly all on their own.

So, the next time something like this comes up, do your body and everyone else's body and mind a favor and remeber what the major sexual organ is, eh? And remember that you are more than your body, and that your body serves a VAST array of purposes, and sexuality is but one of many of them.

I now return you to your regularly scheduled posting.

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Heather Corinna
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AlwaysWorried
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I would like to point something out to the girls/women who say stuff like "I haven't got size 6000DDDDDD breasts, therefore men don't look at me" (exageration obviously). Think about it, if you had larger breasts, men would look at you more, but that's not a good thing, they'd probably just see you as someone to joke about or, at most, have a one-night stand with. They wouldn't see you as a person.

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Milke
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Small breasts are not a handicap. Neither are large ones, nor any size in between. I think the message you're missing here, is that it's all good, not just one small, acceptable group of body types.

It's also important to note that not all men are attracted to the same thing, nor are all men prone to harassing women, nor attracted to women at all.

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Celtic Daisy
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quote:
Originally posted by AlwaysWorried:
Think about it, if you had larger breasts, men would look at you more, but that's not a good thing, they'd probably just see you as someone to joke about or, at most, have a one-night stand with. They wouldn't see you as a person.

To add to what Milke said, I have natural 36D breasts. I don't think men look at me as a joke or a one night stand. I'm 17, a nice person, and I think everyone knows there's more to me then my breasts.

The point of this is, big or small breats, just love yourself. You shouldn't have to put down someone else to make yourself feel better.

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Heather
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Please, please PLEASE remember that putting down or discrediting one sort of body shape is NOT the way to empower another.

Not only is it just unacceptable here, it's simply foolhardy. Real positive body image is not about learning to like your body by learning to dislike every other type.

Breasts and breasts and breasts are breasts. They come in many different shapes and sizes, any of which can be objectified by someone looking to objectify them -- size doesn't make that so.

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Heather Corinna
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