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I was wondering what peoples views on threesomes are. Are they a bad thing to have? If you had one, would you do it while you were dating someone, and if you were dating someone who would be the other person be. This is my ultimate fantisy and really want to do it, but I am currently in a relationship and don't know how to go about doing that. Posts: 30 | From: New York, USA | Registered: Oct 2000
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Three-somes, like casual sex, aren't for everyone. I think it's a good way to have fun and I've even known people to have three-some relationships with no sex involved, but it can be hard. Very very hard. I myself wouldn't want to do one while I was in a relationship, in fact if I ever did the requirement would be the three of us were single. Because for ME I might get jealous, or I might not like the idea of myself or my partner with someone else - even if I was with them too.
This decision is truly up to you but I wouldn't recomend it.
Brittany
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I've only ever seen these things go wrong -- BUT much of the danger is involved in only doing it to have done it. If you're even considering getting involved with two people at once, make sure you know their motivation for wanting to do so.
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Err ... this is an interesting question, to say the least
But, like pixie said, they aren't for everyone. I just happen to be one of those people that they really aren't for, because i think it's just very wrong and immoral. I think sex should be shared b/w two people that are in love and i find it hard to believe that you can really truely be in love w/ two people at the same time ... So, no, i don't agree w/ threesomes at all ... But whatever floats your boat is fine w/ me. I don't judge people who do it, because it's really just a personal preference
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You know, there's a big difference between fantasy and reality. In fantasy, or at least in my fantasies, everyone's happy, no one feels left out, the experience is amazing, and everyone gets off. Afterwards, there's no hard feelings and everyone's just the way they were before.
In reality, or at least in the reality I've been living in, threesomes have a lot of potential to make people feel left out, to cause serious emotional episodes, and to change existing relationships in unexpected ways.
This is not to say that I think they're bad, but just that bringing another person into bed with you is a lot more than a math equation. This is not just an extra set of genitalia -- they're a *person* with hopes, dreams, feelings, needs and desires that now need to be taken into account, along with your needs and desires and the needs and desires of your partner.
If you are really serious about having one, then it's time to seriously talk with your partner about the differences between your individual fantasies and the actual reality that could happen. It'd probably be a good idea to go over the readiness for sex checklist again together, expanding it to think about what would happen with another partner, and then to go over it with that person.
I would also say that there's nothing wrong with having an active and healthy fantasy life, discussing fantasies with one's partner and then not acting on them.
Erin
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Well, i have heard a few people who have had threesomes... but i wouldnt say its something i would or could do. the thought of another person having sex with my partner or with me just kinda makes me cringe.. i always go by that saying "threes a crowed" but hey it isnt for me but it might be for many other people.
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All in all, I think that threesomes take a LOT of emotional preparation. There are a lot of things to consider, and you have to be understand that threesomes are nothing like they are in pornographic films.
In short, don't do it unless you are absolutely sure of what you're getting yourself into
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hmmm yeah i really like the idea too...but i can get very jealous and possessive (hey, no one's perfect!) so i could never do it with ppl i really cared for. i guess it'd be okay if i never saw them again! whether or not u ought to go 4 it is dependent on ur personality and partner, i reckon... i know i couldn't handle seeing my partner turned on by sum1 else!
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you know i just had a threesome yesterday for the first time-it was the best. but of course there are probably people who don't approve with these things. I had it with my best friend and this guy i know for a long time(very cute) we used protection of course. but i really enjoyed it.
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My ex asked me just this weekend to have a threesome with him and this girl. To me, that was a big turn off. I don't object to them and I'm sure they can be fun. Maybe a few years ago I would've jumped at the chance, hehe. But right now I'm at a point in my life where I don't want that kind of casual relationship, more security and being monogamous is for me.
So, I guess my opinion is....fun, exciting, but you could be taking a risk at getting hurt. Therefor, not for me.
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Threesomes can definitely be fun, but make sure that you pick the right people, especially if you're in a relationship with one of them. Things could totally backfire, and you could end up on your own. Make sure that you trust your boyfriend/girlfriend, or just have one when everyone is single!
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