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It seems like most people on this board love their body. Me, on-the-other-hand, has complete issues with it...I could be shorter, skinner, smaller chested, etc. But oh when I have that moment when I look in the mirror and think "Damn I am SEXY!!!"it just hits me smack dab in the face and for a week I will be on cloud nine because of it. I don't love my body the way it is but I have accepted it. Hopefully when I am older (I'm only 17 now) I will come to better terms with it. Posts: 15 | From: Gastonia, North Carolina, United States | Registered: Mar 2002
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im ok with my body..im like 5'5 and around 130 lbs..im not chubby or anything...im just muscluar. i own horses so with me working with them i have huge things and calfs(well i think i do..me & my b/f agrue about this.lol). i think the only thing id change would be my legs....but there my legs..so i guess i just have to deal with them..lol
Posts: 12 | From: P e n n s y l v a n i a, USA | Registered: Mar 2002
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I'm one of those people who aren't really happy with any part of my body. Except for maybe my nose, its so cute and little. I feel like I need to change pretty much everything. I feel like my whole body to too chubby, my eyes too big, my teeth too big, acne, feet too big, and I could go on and on. I used to be overweight a couple of years ago. I was 5'7" and 215 pounds and never had a b/f and then when I lost 50lbs I had all kinds of attention from guys and I didn't really like it. Why couldn't they just look past my appearence and like me for me? I just have a really bad self-image of myself and I can't seem to get past it.
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I always had horrible self-confidence of myself. Until more recently. I lost a little bit of weight and my body became more naturally curvy, my breasts filled out and my legs toned up. I was amazed at the natural change that occurred and for once I was so excited with the reflection I saw in the mirror. Now I have more self-confidence than ever and the days I get to spend with my boyfriend are wonderful...
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Well, I'm kind of off-and-on with my body image, heh heh. I'll have those days where I'll just be thinking "wow, I look good, I must've lost weight, I have pretty eyes, blah blah blah". Then there are those days where I wake up, look in the mirror and go "God, I look like a hag, I'm so fat, etc etc". I have kinda big hips and could stand to be in better shape. I don't really exercise, its something I need to start doing again. I also have stretch marks, not a *whole* lot, but on my hips they're noticeable, the back of my thighs, and my breasts & knees. They aren't so bad on my breasts & knees, but I can't wear low-cut pants, and I don't think I'd ever wear a swimsuit, or else you'd see them. I know everyone says, "accept the stretch marks", but thats a lot easier said than done, especially when you overhear people talking sh*t about some girl because she had stretch marks showing, or your guy friends talk about how disgusting they are, not knowing that under my clothes, BAM, there they are.
*le sigh* I don't know. I'm only 17, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised I have body issues. I don't know anyone my age who doesn't. I mean, I love myself, my personality, mind, sense of humor, all that. I think I have a pretty face, and I'm good at dressing to cover my flaws, but I'm afraid to wear a lot of clothes I like because of my body. Also, I feel mentally ready for sex, but I'd be nervous for a guy to see my body. A lot of guys my age have these preconceived notions of what woman's body "should" look like, and its intimidating. I feel like I'd have to give them a run-down of what to expect beforehand, LoL. Eh, whatever.
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I have a small frame, I wear a 32A bra (shakes head sadly) and I'm about 87 pounds...but no I'm not anorexic I'm 13 and plus, I have fast metabolism. Overall I'm OK with my body but I just want a bigger chest. Lol.
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Mmmm I have self-confidence on somedays and somedays I want to go hide.
I love my eyes. I have a pretty face and a nice shape of legs that need a big of toning. My whole body could stand to be a little darker, and I wish my skin was a little clearer. I'm only an A cup, I wish I was a B.
But those are just superficial things that all teenagers go through at one point or another. Some people don't even have eyes that work, a nose that functions, or legs to walk on. Until you meet somebody less fortunate than you, you'll always be unsatisfied.
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I am fairly happy with my body it's alright people do call me skinny...I wish i was skinnier tho..i weigh about 103 and am 5'5..so i spread out pretty well...I just wish i had bigger chest..THEY WILL COME haha eventually i am really behind maturally in my class i jus tstarted my period...I am in about a 34A now woohoo i am just going ot be happy with whatever i have
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I love my body sometimes, they are like things I do to appreciate my body sometimes, like I'll put on some nice lip gloss, a little glitter here and there, I'll do my hair nice and put on a cute outfit, and if I've recently lost a few pounds thats icing on the cake! I think it's so sad when girls hate their bodies, so I try not to stress myself over my image but its hard
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right now, I am totally jazzed about my body. I'm working out, I'm eating better than I used to, and I'm feeling good (except for the muscle I pulled in my neck, but i digress). even my mother, who typically gives me grief for my weight, is noticing a difference.
i'm no skinny-mini thing, and i doubt i was ever meant to be one, but right now my clothes fit great and i am bounding with energy. all is good under my skin
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I absolutely loooove my body. Sure, I'm 5'0 and 118, but all the same I love it. I go to all extremes to make myself somebody beautiful and worth wile. I get piercings with sparkly earrings and wear bracelets and necklaces with sparkly little charms to show the sparkle within (I'm getting my 2nd piercing on Saturday!). I wear cute shirts that show the wonderful curves of my two breasts. And shorts and capris that make my butt stick out (I love it!), and show off my hips. OMG I just love my hips. I've had them ever since I was 11 and am proud of it. I get a manicure every once in a while, painted with mocha, chestnut, or amaretto brown (I love those browns!). I don't like make up that much cause it clogs my pores (Like I need that with the acne I have!), but I like lip-gloss and lip butters. I also have thick, wavy, untidy blonde hair. I haven't got a cut since September, but am going tomorrow. I really don't like my weight, but I don't put an effort at dieting either, and I dis-like my acne, cause I got it everywhere, but I do what I can to prevent it, and I'm done. I guess I 80% love my body, but since your only given one, mind as well love while ya can. Posts: 36 | Registered: Jul 2003
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I have never had any major problems with my body image, but a LOT of my friends have. I admit to reading a few girly mags left around the house by my sister (I am ashamed :0 reading those things makes me feel so...urgghhh! The crap those magazines spout is phenomenal!) So now I have a serious vendetta against people who write magazines which from the outside seem to be promoting good body image for girls, but on closer inspection just make girls' hangups worse.
I mean, on one page they tell you that you have every right to feel beautiful, that size doesn't matter, etc. So I start to feel hopeful, maybe society has woken up to the fact that more girls are getting eating disorders, but then, low and behold, on the next page there is an article on HOW TO LOSE 10 POUNDS IN 2 WEEKS. God dammit I am going to write to the people who write these f***ing magazines and give 'em a piece of my mind. I know they will probably say "well if you don't like it, don't read it" but I feel I have got to make a stand.
Sorry to rant like this, but I needed to get it off my chest!! My sister (who is 9 years old and a perfectly healthy weight) announced that she wanted to go on a diet because she thought she was 'too fat'. Now I can't blame magazines directly for feeding her this negativity, but I don't think they do girls any favours either. I know this was slightly off topic, but it's gotta be said.
As for my body image, I have days when I wish I was shorter or that my hair wasn't so thick or my eyebrows weren't so dark, but in the end I have to admit that my body does a great job of keeping my alive and healthy (which are extremely important things ) so complaining about it's outside appearance isn't justified. So take care of your bodies people! Shake your asses proudly
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Actually, I just weighed myself and I gained 10 pounds (How did I do that?)! Now I'm 128 pounds. God! Time to hit the tennis courts! 8)
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We can continue this thread, but we can't, from now on, post our heights and weights, that just seems to be linked with too much negativity, and that's not what we want. Got it?
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I'm currently really happy with my body image...in the past year I've gotten in much better shape than I've ever been in before, and while I've gained some weight, it's been in muscle :-) I'm 5'5", and wished I was taller for quite sometime, but now that most of my friends are not over 6', like was the case in high school, I'm happy with how tall I am. The only downside to getting in better shape is that now that I posess actual functional leg muscles, my pants don't fit anymore. meh. I've always quite liked my face, except for the acne which seems to be finally dying down somewhat, and that my hair is in that annoying in-between stage of growing it out. It's also a severely bizzare color, being blonde for most of the length, with patches of washed-out red, and dark roots. This will be rectified with hair dye as soon as I can manage it. :-b
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Well, im 15, am **Hey, did you read what I said? Don't post that sort of thing here, please. And DO take care in your spelling; there's no reason to use bizarre spellings when the REAL word is only one letter apart, and makes so much more sense. **. i dont have the worst body image in the world, but im not the happiest i could be with my body. sometimes i think my mother has a worse image of my body than i do...shes always buying fatfree food just for me, leaves articles and stuff about losing weight and obese teenagers, sometimes its not the things she says but the things she DOESN'T say.
sometimes i look in the mirror and feel unattractive, i try to look on the bright side and think to myself that my friends love me for who i am. but i've never had a boyfriend or anything lyke that, so i often think because of that that the reason is that all the guys go for all the skinny good looking girls, and most do i think. so i've convinced myself that i'll have to rely on personality and not looks to get a guy, but i dunno. a lot of girls in this post mentioned how their boyfriends loved their bodies for who they were. i only hope i could find a guy lyke that...but now im not so sure.
i try to lyke the way i am, but sometimes no matter how much you try at something, its hopeless. so at best, i just try not to think much about my body at all. but then again, theres always that big mirror in the bathroom welcoming comments about your reflection....heh.
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Well for the past while (well pretty much my whole life) I've been pretty negative about my body and was very self conscious about myself, but last night I was standing in front of my mirror and I actually realized how much I actually do love my body, I'm not fat, but I'm not skinny, and I'm tall and such, and I just feel that I have a very unique body, and I'm so glad that I have finally accepted myself for who I am.
The only thing that I would kinda want to change about my body is my stretch marks! I have them everywhere, my bum, my breasts, my thighs.. everywhere! But they don't bother me too much because I know almost everyone has them somewhere or another, so it doesn't bother me as much anymore
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For the most part I am aware of all that my body does for me and I am grateful and treat it as best I can (other than the beating it took all those years before highschool playing at least four sports a year). I think I am the perfect height for a guy, 6'2" (I am biased of course). For the most part my body image is very favorable, except for two constant irritants.
I am actually at my target weight and I have a low fat percentage but that does not stop people from seeing that I am tall telling me I am skinny every second of the day. Telling someone they are skinny in a neagtive way is very acceptable in our culture unfotunately. It does not help that I regularly lift weights and see very very slow improvement (4 pounds of muscle in four months). Its a mild irritant, however unfortunate I do think about it, but I dont let it get me down and it has pushed me into the gym which feels really great.
My real pet peeve about my body though is body hair! Specificaly my legs, I dont mind it on my chest or forearms and I have none om my back but man, whenever I look at my legs its like my genes have turned traitor. I have to admit that occasionaly I wear pants to cover up my legs, even if its broiling outside. I usually try to look at the positive, but these leg hairs are proving elusive, the darn things don't even keep me warm!
I am just waiting for the magazines to proclaim that slender hairy guys are sexy. In the meantime I plan to not let it bother me.
Just my two pennies for the day.
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I personally do love my body, even if i did have flaws... I do feel that i am beautiful equally on the outside, and on the inside. My body's natural; i've never had anything done surgically changed to my body. I don't believe in that. I'd rather grow with the natural changes rather than just wanting to be so perfect with all the latest body technology! Just my two cents
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**See above**. I'm not really sure if that is a healthy weight for my hight. I am so insecure about my body! Its sad. All my friends are skinny and I can't help but compare myself to them.
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i'm with sunshine_1ofakind on this one, I really do hate my body and want to change everything. i am also going through social anxiety issues which is where your head is telling you things that you feel others are saying about you CONSTANTLY. i get extremely embarrassed, which causes me to associate that action with negative thoughts and feelings, leading to avoidance behavior and recurring negative thoughts, replaying the situation and causing more anxiety next time it happens (repeating the cycle). i find all of my flaws or flaws i believe others are seeing. i am constantly feeling like people talk bad about me and laugh behind my back. this along with a couple years of being bullied and emotionally abused by my ex-friend led to self-punishment (physically), but i am trying to get through it. i am extremely insecure and i want to reach out to professionals for help or medication, but i can't do that for a couple of years, at least.
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Hey SMiNKLe, Im sorry you're going through all this anxiety. Try to remember that anxiety and depression warp our thoughts sometimes and make things seem much worse than they actually are. In truth, people are too worried with their own issues to be contantly tallking or laughing about you. They may well think that you are noticing all the flaws in their bodies.
Reaching out to professionals sounds like a great idea. Whats stopping you from doing this for 2 years?
Talking to a counsellor or to your family doctor is a start. Remeber that what you tell them is confidential. There are also often good support groups for people with social anxiety. It can help to know that you're not the only one. Good luck.
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Sminkle, I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I completely understand how you are feeling. I developed an extreme case of social anxiety in 7th grade, and it didn't start getting better until 9th. Sometimes, if you're feeling down about your body image, it DOES help to go for a run, or eat healthy, to know that you're doing something about it. Even if you see no change, staying healthy can help you realize that this is your body, and it's the healthiest body it can be.
Eryn_Smiles is right though. I know it sounds silly, and a little cliche since you've probably heard it a lot, but a lot of people really do need to make others feel small so they can feel big. I was bullied by girls in my grade since I was in 4th grade, and though i'm not happy about this, they turned out to have some pretty big problems as we got to highschool.. Problems like extreme drug dependency, anorexia and bulimia. It just showed me that they really had some things going on in their life, and didn't know how to express themselves in a socially acceptable way.
The social anxiety can be helped by therapy. I used to have trouble leaving the house for school because I kept feeling that people were looking at me, or stepping into a room of people, but those problems have greatly decreased. In the meantime of seeking professional help, a book that really helped me was FEELING GOOD- The New Mood Therapy. It gives some really good ideas of how to cope with this problem. Also, and this is something I say all the time "there is no should or shouldn't" and I got it from that book. It helps me pretty much everyday when I tell myself I should be like this, or like that, or I shouldn't be so whatever... I forgot to add this hun, Diagonally Parked in a Straight World is another book recommended to me by my doctor. It's an extremely well written book about social anxiety and coping with social anxiety. Books like these, along with talk therapy, work wonders.
I hope that helps a bit... I don't know how hold you are, but these things partly go away with age, being that being a teenager can just really suck... but when you get out of it you can see things a lot more clearly.
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Well, I dont LOVE my body, but I dont HATE it either. I find my boobs are way too small (32 A and I could fit into a 32 AA).. my gut isnt flat.. my thighs arent firm.. However, Im not completely unhealthy, which is the only thing I keep reminding myself that should matter, and plus like the starter of this thread said, you only have one body.
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I think it's so sad when girls hate their bodies, so I try not to stress myself over my image but its hard
I am going to write to the people who write these f***ing magazines and give 'em a piece of my mind. I know they will probably say "well if you don't like it, don't read it" but I feel I have got to make a stand.
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