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This isn't going to be very long, but I just had to share this extremely refreshing experience. I’ve just recently starting having intercourse with a new partner. I didn’t originally intend to start having sex with him so quickly, but it felt right. When we were making out before our first time together, I started wondering how to approach the subject of sex and protection (this definitely should've been done beforehand, but I don't think either of us expected things to progress the way they did...) Anyways, that discussion is something I usually have a very hard time doing, but I was determined to assert my boundaries and refuse sex if he didn’t want to use a condom. I wasn’t going to make the same mistakes I had made with previous partners. When he told me he wanted to take my clothes off (but didn’t actually try to do it without my permission), I found the courage to ask him, as sexily as possible, “do you have a condom?” His answer (which I absolutely loved) was: “yes… I believe in safer sex.” Score! We have a winner!
Seriously though, it probably says a lot about my previous partners that I found that such a novel experience, but I really did. He even volunteered testing information (all negative) without me having to say a thing. I think this one’s a keeper.
This whole experience has made me think a lot. This guy has taken two separate classes on Human Sexuality at a post-secondary level. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. His responsible behaviour and his level of education on the subject are absolutely linked in my opinion. Previous partners of mine weren’t quite so illuminated. They weren’t stupid by any stretch of the imagination, but they lacked the knowledge to make the more responsible decisions without prompting. Just another example of proper Sex Ed really making a difference…