Heather Corinna's blog

Scarleteen Mix #2: Shacking Up!

This time, it's driving a U-Haul and also maybe freaking out a little because whooooo boy, moving in with someone you're in an intimate

We love you so much, we made you a mixtape.

Scarleteen Mix Number One: Reinvent Yourself!We made a few of them, actually. And we're going to keep making a few of them to share with you over every month, because some of us love making mixes and all of us love all of you!

No. More.

What should you do when someone says no to or otherwise refuses or declines your romantic or sexual gestures or asks Accept it and stop making those gestures or asks. That's the right answer every single time: just accept someone's no and then back right off.

Asking or otherwise pressing over and over isn't the right answer. "Not giving up" (which often looks a whole lot like harassment) isn't the right answer.  Trying to get them to change their mind isn't the right answer.  Trying to get them to change their mind through their friends or family also isn't the right answer. And while it should be obvious, we so sadly know that it isn't: no kind of violence is ever the right answer.

Camp Scarleteam 2018: Burton or Bust!

Well, hello everybody! It’s Heather, founder and director of Scarleteen, and Al, your friendly neighborhood sexeducator and volunteer camp leader, here to make a quick ask for your support in a thing that helps keep our team doing all the good work that we do.

Give it up for these awesome organizations!

None of us in this kind of work have the ability to be everything for everyone, or to serve people in all the ways people need help, care, support, information or community by ourselves. So, this #GivingTuesday, we'd like to bring your attention to just a few other organizations besides us (oh, we'll ask you for money for ourselves soon enough, don't you worry!) who we really appreciate who are participating. We're so grateful for them and all that they do. If you're looking for a new place to give some support this week, we suggest you start here:

Give Our Team a Cheer (and also a little money)!

I want to take time to talk about what I think really makes Scarleteen different from other sources of sex education and ways of doing sex education these days. And no, it's not that, as one of our team says, we've been made of effing rainbows since 1998 (well, not only that, anyway).

The Campfire Strikes Back: Help Us Make a Staff Camp Sequel!

Heather, Troublepants and Moo with Scarleteen flagLast summer, we made a big, amazing thing happen for the first time. We brought nearly all of our staff and volunteers from across the United States, Europe, Canada and even Australia, to one beautiful place for a five-day staff campout and epic team-building retreat. And we couldn't have done it without the financial help we got from hundreds of our fantastic supporters (you rock!).

We're Taking an End of Year Break

We normally make ourselves available over the holidays when many other organizations are closed, but this year we're going ahead and giving all of our staff a holiday break.  We've had such a hard year, like so many, and time for all who work so hard here to rest and regroup at the end of it is necessary so we can keep doing our work well and do needed self-care.