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Condoms

Unread postby VeryCurious » Tue Mar 12, 2019 1:10 am

Okay, so I didn't get it confirmed by a doctor but I'm pretty sure I'm allergic to latex so I bought non latex condoms. I thought they worked great! But now my bf(who I have been dating for a year now) says that they hurt. We bought SKYN non latex condoms and neither one of us had any type of reaction the 1st time but the 2nd time he said it hurt really bad. We actually stopped because it caused him such discomfort. I get a shot every 3months so I dont get pregnant and we use condoms as a back up and becuz it creates less of a mess. Latex condoms make me get an infection and now it seems like non latex condoms cause severe discomfort for my boyfriend. Any suggestions?

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Re: Condoms

Unread postby Sam W » Tue Mar 12, 2019 7:15 am

Hi VeryCurious,

Backing up with condoms is something we recommend even when folks are on another form of birth control, so let's see if we can find a way for you to keep that up. One option would be to try another brand of non-latex condoms, in case there's something about the SKYN ones specifically that's the culprit. Another option would be the internal, AKA female, condom for you. Have you ever heard of those, and if so are they something you and he would be up for trying?

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Re: Condoms

Unread postby VeryCurious » Wed Mar 13, 2019 2:41 am

"Female" condoms so to speak make me super nervous! I went awhile without using a condom becuz everytime I did, I would get some type of infection. I seem to have a lot of allergies it seems tbh I have super sensitive skin and I thought female condoms weren't as effective?

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Re: Condoms

Unread postby Heather » Wed Mar 13, 2019 7:55 am

Do you want to talk about why they make you nervous? Is it just about effectiveness issues (which aren't actually an issue: currently, they're just as effective as external condoms are), or is there more?

That said, is your boyfriend using a little lube inside the condom? If he isn't, that's probably why they hurt (and any kind of condom often won't feel good after a while when the wearer doesn't have a little lube inside -- IMO, I think it's one of the top reasons people who say condoms are uncomfortable do, because they don't know to put lube in there), and likely what can change that.
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Re: Condoms

Unread postby VeryCurious » Wed Apr 17, 2019 1:48 pm

I'm curious abt how effective female condoms are, and lube actually stresses me out because it's messy and I hate 5he way it smells.

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Re: Condoms

Unread postby Heather » Wed Apr 17, 2019 2:22 pm

They're just as effective as the other kind! :)

For sure, lube can get messy, but tbh, no messier than it is to have the right amount of lubrication bodies need when they're making it themselves. And no messier than the kinds of sex where lube is needed or fluids are involved get, period.

But between that issue and the scent you're complaining about, there may be some easy fixes. For instance, using lubes that come in -- or that you put in -- pump containers instead of the kind you pour can help to avoid any mess. IMHO, it's usually the kind you pour out that wind up all over the place, in places you don't actually want the lube to go.

And not all lubricants have a scent in the first place: have you been able to really try a decent range of lubricants (and not just the usual two or three brands drugstores and such carry, which usually aren't the top quality lubes)?
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Re: Condoms

Unread postby Bluenikuli » Sat Apr 20, 2019 7:52 am

Idk if I’m allowed to speak here but water based lubes are super mess free and have no smell. :)

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Re: Condoms

Unread postby Alice M. » Sat Apr 20, 2019 9:29 am

Bluenikuli, yes, this is the user-to-staff section only, which means staff and original poster comments only. Thanks!


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