So, I’ve been taking salsa classes for almost 2 years, and I’ve made a lot of friends. One of them, who I’ll call L, is a really close friend who I’ve known for over a year.
Last January, I started to develop feelings for him. I thought it was just a silly crush, but my feelings for him became more intense over the next few months.
So, last May, I decided to talk to him about it. Although L didn’t feel the same way, he still considered me to be one of his closest friends. I felt a lot better after we talked, because I was worried that my crush would ruin our friendship. But, my feelings eventually went away.
Last June, for my birthday, my family and I went to a restaurant that hosted salsa lessons. I invited a few of my friends (including L) to the restaurant so they could celebrate with me. My mom later mentioned to me that L seemed aloof and didn’t engage with me. I hadn’t noticed at the time. However, at a different social dance, I started to notice his aloofness more. So in response, I decided to be less warm and friendly, and more distant.
Now, for most of July, I haven’t been to salsa due to work and summer classes. But, I did go this week, because it was my instructor’s birthday. Although L and I did chat a little (eg “Hey, how are you?”, etc), he seemed friendlier towards my other friends, as well as my brother who takes salsa with me. Granted, that could be because I was a little aloof towards him.
While I don’t have feelings for L anymore, a part of me wonders if I still want to be friends with him. But, another part of me feels guilty like I screwed something up.
Basically, should I try to rekindle our friendship, or should I just let us drift apart?
I’m starting to feel distant from my best friend, should I try to make up with him, or should I we stop being friends?