Scarleteen

Nowadays, I see tons of articles targeted to teens (Refinery29, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen Magazine) sayings that “self-care” is the number-one dependence to resolved all your problems.

I don’t believe pampering yourself with bubblebaths, putting on face-masks, drinking water, or forcing yourself to oblivion instead of seeing the reality of you and your life is “self-care” or “self-love”.
(I’m not saying all of these methods are invalid, go ahead and do them if you like.)

I don’t like where this selfish sigma is getting so popular. How come whenever I do these things recommend my confidence never boosts and I always see myself the same, no matter whoever tries to convince me.

What exactly is self-care and how can you feel good about yourself without being so selfish?

Pampering is only one — of many — kinda of self-care. Other kinds include things like exercise and movement, feeding oneself, meditation, positive self-talk, socializing, doing creative work... the works.

What works for a person when it comes to self-care is very personal as well as very situational. I haven’t seen pieces that make the kind of claims you seem to have seen, so I can’t speak to that.

But if what you’re looking to do specifically is increase your self-confidence, for sure, some kinds of self-care can often help people with that. Pampering, however, doesn’t strike me as the kind of self-care most likely to be of use with that specific issue, though.

Want to talk more about what you’re looking for with increasing your confidence and what might help?