I do also want to note that if you go to school, you may have access to some of the books I'd suggest about healthy relationships through your school library. As well, if you and your boyfriend go out in your neighborhood together, going to the library together is something you can probably do.
Figuring out how to have healthy relationships isn't something a person can do without information about it, especially if they haven't learned how to do that through the relationships -- like with family -- they have witnessed or been part of growing up. If one or both of you have any learning disabilities that make reading difficult, there are other options, too, like audiobooks or like getting help from community-based services or programs to help people learn how to have healthy relationships. For example, there are branches of both the YWCA and YMCA in Baltimore, and both of those are community organizations that often offer this kind of help and programming, and usually for free.
Long story short: if you're both serious about this, you're going to have to at least do some homework, and that really is all there is to it. No one can just magic this stuff for you: it takes learning and it takes an investment of time in learning, and that's just to get a start.
In the event reading isn't an issue for both of you, at the very least, you can start by both reading some of the content we have here on the website about healthy relationships. You don't have to walk anywhere to get this content, it's right here.
I've made a short list for you to get started with below that I'd suggest you share with your boyfriend, that you both read, and that you both use to talk to each other about:
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Does Your Relationship Need a Checkup?
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Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Board and Navigate a Healthy Relationship
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Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
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Potholes & Dead Ends: Relationship Roadblocks to Look Out For