Period Problems

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Period Problems

Unread postby seabreeze2 » Sat Nov 25, 2017 9:08 pm

Hello,

I am a 23 year old female. I have noticed gradual period problems over the last year, especially since August of this year. They have become much shorter; my normal has been about 4 and a half to 5 days, and one recent period was literally 2 and a half days long. Pre-period symptoms (breast tenderness, cramps) and symptoms during a period (backache, breast tenderness, headache,etc) were little to not there.
I started my periods in the 5th grade, around age 11. I have had what I consider my normal periods since. However, I know that there is a lot going in my life right now that might be contributing factors.

I have been in a relationship for 5 years now with my boyfriend. We have not had vaginal or anal sex, however we have done oral sex for about 2 years. He has been my only sex partner, he had one instance of anal sex with an ex. I do masturbate and I try to do it with clean hands, but sometimes I forget. I also do not insert anything into the vagina besides an occasional finger. I have found that I cannot achieve good pleasure when I masturbate as of late.

I am almost done with my undergrad in college. I have been in college since 2012 and this semester is rather difficult. I am trying to finish strong. But I work two jobs and the weight has been pulling on me.

I mentioned two jobs - I'm a student worker at my university's museum, and my more active job is a Certified Nurse Assistant at a nursing home. I work 8 hours and it's constant walking. I have yet to track my steps, but I believe I walk about 5-7 miles a shift while I am there. I work at the nursing home often, and I have since late July this year.

I also am a frequent blood donor. I last donated last month. I have low iron issues so I try to take iron supplements around time of donation. By taking the iron supplements my last period (this month) thankfully was 3 and a half days, unlike the 2 and a half days one before it. Symptoms were a little more prominent.

Besides school stress, I deal with family stress. My dad has been back to drinking and he smokes again now and that greatly upsets me. I want him to stop and trying to talk to him does not work.
And if it matters, I have low vitamin D and I (try to) take a vitamin daily, 2000 mg.

It just scares me that something very serious is wrong with me,and I am scared to go to the doctor. Though I know that I should. I do not want to freak out my mother or boyfriend, nor end up having to take birth control pills or all that. I am scared that something very serious is going on with me too.

I hope I have provided enough information. Thank you.

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Re: Period Problems

Unread postby seabreeze2 » Sat Nov 25, 2017 9:10 pm

I forgot to mention that I have had fluctuating weight for the past year. I gained a good amount of weight last year, I was up to 167 pounds. I tried eating healthier and exercising, and I was able to get down to 153 pounds. But with the final semester of college I have been eating a lot of unhealthy foods and I might be back to 158 pounds as of now.

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Re: Period Problems

Unread postby Sam W » Sun Nov 26, 2017 9:11 am

Hi seabreeze2,

It's pretty common to, every now and then, have a period that is shorter than usual or that has less intense (or more intense) symptoms than normal. So if the unusual period has only happened a few times, it's unlikely to be cause for concern. However, if you're really stressed out about it, you can check in with a healthcare provider. Can I ask why you're afraid that this situation will freak out your mom or your boyfriend?

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Re: Period Problems

Unread postby seabreeze2 » Sun Nov 26, 2017 7:58 pm

Hi,

Well it seems to me that this period change has been gradual a little over a year, with it being more short these past 3 months.
Earlier this year I noticed that pre-period symptoms were not appearing as they usually do (or at the intensity I usually have them)and these last two have been 2 or 3 days long.
I'm afraid it will freak out my boyfriend for he might think he did something wrong or worry for me too.
As for my mother, I come from a conservative family (which is why I'm 23 and still haven't had actual sex yet, but we have done oral because of our intimate level) and I know she will freak out. Especially if I have to have all sorts of tests done.

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Re: Period Problems

Unread postby Heather » Mon Nov 27, 2017 8:20 am

It's actually common for periods to get lighter once you settle into having them and for PMS symptoms to also chill out.

None of what you are reporting here is anything that would suggest any cause for concern. People experiencing pain or things like bloating or cramping with or around periods is common, but it ideally should be minimal. Some people who grow up conservatively are raised with the (false) belief that women's reproductive or sexual bodies/systems are supposed to be painful. Not sure if that was or is a thing for you, but if so, know it's not sound.

Also know that there is no reason your mother would be informed about your healthcare, should you choose to get it.
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