How comfortable are you with your genitals?

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How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby Sam W » Fri Sep 15, 2017 7:50 am

We've been getting some questions lately that had me re-remembering that people have varied and complex feelings about their genitals. Some people love them and think their cool looking, some people are just like, "yep, that's a body part of mine," and some people are uncomfortable with them. I thought it would be nice to have a space where people could share and see all the different ways there are to feel about your body.

If you're someone who digs your genitals, what helped you get to that point? And if they cause you discomfort, where does that discomfort come from?

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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby Jacob » Fri Sep 15, 2017 2:47 pm

I think I feel discomfort in non-sexual situations... When it's a sexy situation, I can get into that mindframe and feel confident about it. But when say, getting changed around someone... I feel the need to cover up, even if they are someone who I know doesn't care.

It would be nice to one day feel that absent minded confidence that other people have, like it is just another body part.
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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby BiKinksterBoy » Fri Sep 15, 2017 5:29 pm

I'm pretty ok with my genitals. when I take the time to really look at and think about them I think of the specific things I like, and I appreciate when they're complimented, but otherwise it's a sort of quiet confidence that's not intensely flaring up
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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby thewrit3r » Sat Sep 16, 2017 5:37 pm

I don't really think about my genitals unless I'm in a sexual situation like Jacob said. I do like the way it looks, but I'm treating it more like any other part of my body and I'm trying to like the way my body looks in general. I do feel the need to cover up around other people at home, but I know it is just a body part and it really shouldn't be a big deal.
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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby BiKinksterBoy » Sat Sep 16, 2017 5:51 pm

to add on to my previous post, I also cover up around other people at home, but that's more a function of their attitudes around genitals than mine
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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby KittyPink » Thu Sep 21, 2017 5:08 pm

I'm not very comfortable at all with my current downstairs in normal moments. Sexual moments, however, are basically based on how I'm feeling about it.
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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby Harry » Thu Jan 11, 2018 7:56 pm

Sam W wrote:We've been getting some questions lately that had me re-remembering that people have varied and complex feelings about their genitals. Some people love them and think their cool looking, some people are just like, "yep, that's a body part of mine," and some people are uncomfortable with them. I thought it would be nice to have a space where people could share and see all the different ways there are to feel about your body.

If you're someone who digs your genitals, what helped you get to that point? And if they cause you discomfort, where does that discomfort come from?


I have no problem with them except for how some yahoo decided to slice off my foreskin- that sucks. Lucky for me the folks at Wake Forest Institute for Regenerative Medicine have had success growing organs and tissue in test tubes.

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Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

Unread postby Boone-Of-Brass » Thu May 17, 2018 1:35 pm

Well, as a trans boy I'm not insanely thrilled.

It all just feels weird, wrong. Like, binding of course helps. But doing anything sexual down there just feels horribly shameful most times, like a sharp reminder that I'm not what I I should be. I just want a dick, and I've wanted a dick since I was eight. And knowing all these surgery risks that I don't want, I feel helpless to do anything. I just don't like looking at myself in the mirror in the morning and just seeing nothing through my jeans, it's kind of painful.


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