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Confused

Unread post by mcgintysquire »

Hi. Long story short, yesterday my boyfriend was wearing underwear and athletic shorts, and I was wearing the same. We were making out and started dry humping. When he left I felt that my underwear was wet as well as part of my (thin) shorts, near the leg opening. Was this from me, or was it from him? And the fact that was wet doesn't pose a pregnancy risk right? I am kind of scared because idk if my own wetness couls have made it that far on my shorts. But either way it doesnt seem like sperm could travel through at least 3-4 layers, even if part of my shorts got pushed aside. I get so anxious about this, I wake up in the morning in a panic, worried i could be pregnant, especially because my period app said that my last fertile day of the month was yesterday. I had held off from this kind of stuff for a few weeks and felt ready to try again but I guess I just need to stop completely because I always get scared for irrational reasons.
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Re: Confused

Unread post by Sam W »

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.

Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question.

We CAN and WILL talk about things like:
• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
• creating your own sexual limits and boundaries based on your needs and/or presenting them to any partners
• making sexual choices that suit your own needs, abilities and limitations, including your own readiness for certain possible risks
• help locating or using emergency contraception if and when you have had a pregnancy risk
• discussing options with a real, existing pregnancy, and help finding and accessing those options, such as abortion services and pre-natal care, or discussing feelings or concerns about a past pregnancy
• help with anxiety like locating mental health services, sound self-help or asking for support from friends or family

You mentioned you're still struggling with some irrational fears. Looking at your history, we had a previous thread going with you where we were talking about how to address those fears. If you want to pick that conversation back up, you can do so here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic. ... 978#p38978

For help dealing with a scare (including what poses a risk and your next steps based on your unique situation), you may use our tool on site built for this purpose: The Pregnancy Panic Companion.
For help with anxiety, click here.
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