Bathroom issue

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Bathroom issue

Unread post by aj2234 »

Hi,

I know I probably don’t need to ask anything here, but I was a bit unnerved about a situation.

I went to a public bathroom and noticed something on the toilet paper. When I looked closer (without touching it), I found it was menstrual blood. I slid the toilet paper dispenser over to use a new roll, leaving the soiled paper.

I know I didn’t touch the blood, but for some reason I’m quite shaken by it, and just wanted confirmation if I was at risk of anything there.

I’m feeling pretty anxious right now and imagine thats making my perception of things.

Thank you.
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Re: Bathroom issue

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Hi aj2234,

Sounds like you actually aren't needing an answer from us :) You said, "I know I probably don't need to ask anything here" and "I know I didn't touch the blood."

Just like you said, sounds like you were feeling really anxious after this experience and thought some outside confirmation might help the anxiety go down. But I'm going to encourage you to trust yourself on this one--it's good practice to trust your gut!

Sorry to hear about the discomfort and fear this situation brought you. Hope you can take some time to do relaxing, grounding, and/or distracting things.
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Re: Bathroom issue

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Thanks Alice. I appreciate that.
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Re: Bathroom issue

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aj2234, I've noticed that a theme in a lot of your posts you've brought up yourself before -- a lot of constant and high-level anxiety and worry about illness -- continues. In the past, I know you had some discussion here about potentially talking about that with a mental healthcare provider. Is that something you've been able to do yet? If not, is that something we can help or support you in doing?
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Re: Bathroom issue

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Hi Heather, I actually had my first appointment with a psychologist last week and have another appointment next week. It’s been going well so far and we’re working on using meditation to help me avoid or break out of really anxious spirals.
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Re: Bathroom issue

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I'm glad you've found a psychologist that seems to be working well for you! Recognising that this is something that you struggle with and taking steps to work on that is an important, brave thing to do.
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Re: Bathroom issue

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Thanks Sian! It was a bit difficult to accept a need to go back - I had previously tried a psychologist who I just really didn't gel with. It's really nice to find someone who I really think can benefit me and my health. :)
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