I have a few questions:
- 1. Did you enjoy the stimulation your boyfriend was giving you?
- 2. Were you satisfied by it? I.e. do you wish you had done more?
- 3. Have you tried masturbating with him, rather than directly pleasuring eachother? (That sounds like it could address the not-feeling-turned-on alone factor, while still giving you a chance to explore your own sensations.)
Aside from that, I also think you could just tell your boyfriend what you've told us here... that you haven't had much experience of anything you can identify as an orgasm, and that nothing happened from him stimulating you that felt like "Whoa, this is an orgasm". As Siân said what an orgasm actually feels like can vary from person to person, but learning to describe it can only really happen by spending time with yourself. Your body can teach you more about itself than we can.
Feeling impatient or seeking quick answers to satisfy your boyfriend probably won't get you there. But that could be a good thing! In my mind, being relaxed exploring your pleasure, and learning eachothers bodies as you go, and finding ways to care for eachothers pleasure through watching, feeling and listening, is the very thing that can be most rewarding and pleasurable about sex.
How does that sound?
"In between two tall mountains there's a place they call lonesome.
Don't see why they call it lonesome.
I'm never lonesome when I go there." Connie Converse - Talkin' Like You