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Not sure what to do next

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I'm 16 and on Lo Loestrin Fe, this is my 5th month on it. My last period finished yesterday and I started a new pack 2 days ago. Today I was having sex with my boyfriend and the condom (which came with spermicide on it) slipped off in me, and after that we had unprotected sex for a little bit and he didn't finish inside of me. This was the first time we had done that.
I'm a little bit anxious because I don't know if I should get a Plan B. I can't afford to get pregnant, especially not now, and I don't know how protected I am considering the fact that the condom slipped off and I made the (albeit dumb) decision to have unprotected sex afterwards to know what it would feel like. The most frustrating part is knowing that my period just ended and that I won't know if I have a missed period until about 4 weeks from now (I have a 28 day cycle.)
Should I get a Plan B or should I just leave it alone? Should I buy a pregnancy test? I don't really know what to do because I can't tell my parents about this since they're really against sex before marriage. Any help would be appreciated

Also, I'm sorry if this qualifies as a pregnancy scare question. I'm just really scared and I feel lost because I don't have support from my family in this and I want someone's input on what I should do because I was never told what to do in this situation. I'm probably just being paranoid, but I want to play it safe
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Re: Not sure what to do next

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Hi comed,

If you've been using the pill correctly and he used withdrawal during this incident, then you do have a fairly high level of protection (you can see the level of protection combining those two methods here: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method ). If the effectiveness rate of combining those two methods doesn't feel like enough, then you're still in a window where plan B is an option available to you.

Also, just to check, are you and he up to date on STI tests?
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Re: Not sure what to do next

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We were both each other’s first time so no, we have never gotten tested for STIs. Would that be something we should do?
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Re: Not sure what to do next

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If you both have had no sexual contact with anyone besides each other, than your odds of STI transmission are very, very low. You can read more about why that is here: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic ... ave_an_std
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