Hi, I am a virgin, 23, and have never had a cold sore or any other form of STD. I'd had very minimal sexual experience before I started seeing my boyfriend and was fairly safe with previous partners except for one instance which I immediately got testing and counseling done for. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and about a month into the relationship before we had done anything sexual other than kiss I asked him about STIs and cold sores. He told me he had never had an issue. Last night he informed me that he lied to me and has had HSV-1 since he was a child, likely contracted it from his mom. He has performed oral sex on me without barriers. I am pissed. HAD I KNOWN I would have not consented to oral sex or used a barrier. He took that option away from me. The option to protect myself and limit my risk of contacted HSV-2, which could affect me for the rest of my life. I'm not ignorant about oral/genital herpes I know herpes is just an uncomfortable skin condition and my health isn't at risk, but emotionally, I never wanted to deal with this. He wasn't given the option from his mom to avoid contraction, and was upset about it but he did the same to me. I know I could be asymptomatic and that maybe I'd contracted the virus even before him. But the fact that he lied about it and chose not to tell me until seven months into the relationship. I'm struggling with how to handle this. This could affect my future relationships forever and that's something I never wanted to deal with as someone who struggles with anxiety and bad habits of over expectation. Advice on how to handle?