Lost my virginity and now there's blood

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Lost my virginity and now there's blood

Unread post by lemonylimey »

I know this isn't supposed to be used in place of medical advice, but talking to anyone would be great right now.
Boyfriend and I had sex on Friday afternoon. By sex I mean he put it in but I asked him to pull out because it hurt too much. We used a condom to be safe and he definitely didn't cum inside the condom, so I felt reassured in the moment. A few hours later there was just a bit of blood, which was what I expected since I just had sex for the first time, but there was no blood after that.
Next day we hung out and he fingered me; he went a little deeper than he usually did and I'm guessing might've scratched something because there was a bit of blood again, but that quickly stopped a few hours later as well.
Fast forward to tonight, about two days later, and suddenly there's a lot more blood then there was the other night. I didn't drench my underwear or anything, but there was blood visible on my pantyliner. My period isn't due for another 18 days. I just couldn't help but be terrified; there's no way I'm pregnant or anything, right? Or did I just totally mess up? Any sort of comments/anecdotes are welcome.
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Re: Lost my virginity and now there's blood

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