pregnancy scare

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melizabeth2
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pregnancy scare

Unread post by melizabeth2 »

Hello I'm 16 and I have not had sex and do not plan on having sex, but my boyfriend and I fool around and the other week he and I like "grinded" or "dry humped" which is SO SO SO embaressing to actually have to type out but he never came and he never like penetrated me or anything and never went in me but I know there was fluid on the outside of my vagina because I was "wet" and he might have had precum, I am beyond paranoid that somehow his precum traveled way up in me and I'm pregnant. I'm about a week or two out from my period so I have lots of discharge right now which I know means I'm ovulating but I've also researched that it means I could be pregnant which I KNOW there is like no way that I am but I need some other girls to help me relax. This is such an embaressing pregnancy scare because I know many people have it worse but I have acute anxiety and I need state of mind. Recap: naked grinding, no penetration, possible precum, but nothing that couldv'e gone inside. I'm new here too, help!!!!
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Re: pregnancy scare

Unread post by phantomdog »

hi there,

scarleteen has a policy where they won't answer "am i pregnant" questions or irrational pregnancy fears, so instead they redirect you to some resources to help manage anxiety, here's a good link to a lot of resources you can use: http://www.scarleteen.com/anxiety_and_o ... _resources ; mindfulness and meditation can also help. i hope this becomes more manageable for you! when you get an anxious thought, remind yourself that it's just a thought, not a reality - be aware that this is your anxiety, not your reason, speaking. this article could also help: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodie ... _companion
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Re: pregnancy scare

Unread post by Heather »

Thanks, phantomdog. :)

More on that:

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.

Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question.

We CAN and WILL talk about things like:
• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
• creating your own sexual limits and boundaries based on your needs and/or presenting them to any partners
• making sexual choices that suit your own needs, abilities and limitations, including your own readiness for certain possible risks
• help locating or using emergency contraception if and when you have had a pregnancy risk
• discussing options with a real, existing pregnancy, and help finding and accessing those options, such as abortion services and pre-natal care, or discussing feelings or concerns about a past pregnancy
• help with anxiety like locating mental health services, sound self-help or asking for support from friends or family

For help dealing with a scare (including what poses a risk and your next steps based on your unique situation), you may use our tool on site built for this purpose: The Pregnancy Panic Companion.
For help with anxiety, click here.
For related help and information at Scarleteen, click here.
If you would like more information about this policy, click here.
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Re: pregnancy scare

Unread post by Noodle9 »

I am currently going through the same exact thing, Did everything end up okay with you?
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Re: pregnancy scare

Unread post by Jacob »

Hi Noodle9, I've answered your other thread so am locking this thread as we tend to do with this kind of question.
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