Sunshine and I were discussing in another thread a little while ago the attitude of "I'm not like those OTHER girls". That is, the attitude that if, as a woman, you act like "one of the guys" and reject femininity, then you're superior to feminine women who are just "shallow" and "hysterical". This is often accompanied by the attitude of "oh all my friends are guys, girls are just too much drama".
When I was younger, just entering my teenage years, I really really struggled with where I fit (or really didn't fit) with femininity and the world around me. Because of all the pressure I felt, I grew to resent other women, and I became one of those girls who unleashed my internalized misogyny towards other women and thought that I was cooler, more complex, more deep than they were because I wasn't feminine and I was "not like those other girls".
I think a HUGE contributing factor to this attitude were the books I read. I LOVED fantasy and sci-fi books about women who broke the rules and saved the world and rode dragons and fought in wars. I just finished reading a book that I would have LOVED as a teenager, about a scientist/historian woman in a parallel-world victorian era who studies dragons. But I noticed that it was absolutely rife with "I'm not like all those other girls who are so SHALLOW and BORING". This made me realized how pervasive that narrative was in all of the books I read throughout my adolescence, and how much that had influenced me growing up.
Have any of you noticed similar narratives in any of the media you consume or used to consume when you were younger? Did you find yourself internalizing it, or did you feel uncomfortable with those narratives? Have you consumed any media that send the OPPOSITE message, or other internalized-misogyny messages?