Ever Wondered Where a Sex or Dating Thing Came From?

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Ever Wondered Where a Sex or Dating Thing Came From?

Unread postby Sam W » Tue Dec 26, 2017 10:32 am

If so, we want to hear about it! I'm hoping to start a new series about the origins and history of different sex and dating norms. The series is aimed at exploring how certain ideas about sex and relationships come to be accepted as standard (like buying someone a diamond ring to propose to them), as well as offering up some fun facts and interesting history for curious readers. So if there's a particular sex or dating thing where you've always wondered, "why is it like this?" post it here and it might end up as part of the series!

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Re: Ever Wondered Where a Sex or Dating Thing Came From?

Unread postby thewrit3r » Thu Dec 28, 2017 7:14 am

Is there any reason why penile-vaginal intercourse is often considered “real” sex?
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Re: Ever Wondered Where a Sex or Dating Thing Came From?

Unread postby Heather » Sat Dec 30, 2017 8:26 am

One heteronorm that comes up often here over many years is the idea that women -- or, if not women, someone who is femme -- need to wait on a man or masculine person to do the asking out.
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Re: Ever Wondered Where a Sex or Dating Thing Came From?

Unread postby Kaizen » Thu Jan 04, 2018 10:39 am

I wonder if "the talking stage" (where people are communicating a lot, often romantically/sexually, and not communicating with others that way, but haven't defined themselves as being in an exclusive relationship) is actually a new thing or just a new term for something that was already happening. I hear plenty of people my age complain about or make fun of "talking", saying it's a sign that people today can't handle commitment, but I know that in the past people would "date" before declaring themselves to be "going steady", and I wonder if that was different terminology for a similar pattern.


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