I'm going to start with this, since it was the one question you really asked in your last couple responses:
So the other question: what is the best way to behave when you realize that someone is being emotionally silence as form of punishment? esp if you are on a trip or in a place where you have to be around them for a few days? My knee-jerk reaction is to give into their assessment of the situation and wait on them to feel better/improve? Again they aren't caring for me, so I tend to also desert myself or not be there for myself.
I think this is tricky, because sometimes it isn't always -- or more like it, isn't always only -- about silence as punishment. Some people genuinely shut down in the face of others' strong emotions, criticism, or other things that cue big feelings for
them. When and if that is the case, I think we have to recognize that we're not going to be likely to get another response from someone, because they often simply lack the ability to respond differently. In a word, they usually haven't done their own work when it comes to their own traumas or whatever else conditioned them to respond that way. With those people, I think the best tactic is to do what you can to learn not to ask them to swim in the deep end in the first place: to keep things as on-the-surface with them as possible and not let them in to an emotionally close space with you were you need to ask them to have the ability to handle it. Do you know what I mean?
I think it's also really important for yourself to learn to base how you care for yourself on how they are behaving. We need to care for ourselves best of all, *especially* if others around us aren't doing a good job. I know that can be really hard (boy, do I), and it can take a long time, but I do think it's worthwhile to learn. Sounds like you're already starting to work on that: good for you.
Otherwise, when someone HAS the ability to respond compassionately and kindly, to be there for the kind of emotional depth or such you're bringing but what you are saying or doing is just not what they want, not within their control, or otherwise unacceptable to them, so they are very intentionally withholding a kind response (or any response), I'd do all you can to just get and stay away from those people. That is emotionally abusive when it's on purpose -- and not done in a way that's about someone having and setting their own boundaries, which is something else, but also a common reason people withdraw like that -- and when we know someone is emotionally abusive, ideally we do all we can to get away and stay away from them, not spend days at a time with them.
Are you asking about family in that question? It sounds like it, just because it's hard to figure who else you'd feel like you had to spend days with. If it is about family, I'm certainly happy to share some things you can do to start better protecting yourself from abusive family, like some ways you can start to have more limited contact, if you like.