Scarleteen

My boyfriend held me down and touched me without asking, but in the past, I had given him permission to do that. After asking him, he told me that it was what he thought I wanted. Can it still be sexual abuse even without him meaning for it to be? Even if he genuinely thought it was what i wanted?

It is possible for someone not to realise that what they're doing is abusive, yes. Is this the first time your boyfriend has done something like this?