Hey there. I suspect a language barrier may be making some things sound a bit different than you mean here, but we can only really work with what a user writes. So, in the event I have misunderstood anything, please feel free to clarify for me, and my apologies. I'm going to be pretty straightforward here, but if I have misunderstood you, it may feel harsh. That's not my intent.
You know, I don't think the central issue or conflict here is just about that you don't want to have intercourse or that you only want receptive oral sex and to masturbate with a partner.
What I am hearing here suggests that really ALL you seem to want from women are these things and other things that are about what women can do for you, and mostly for you sexually, no less. I'm seeing what looks an awful lot like you only seeing women as vehicles for your needs and wants and likes, not as actual whole people, who not only have their whole own sexualities that are going to be about their wants and needs, not just yours, but who also have the whole rest of themselves as people.
What I am NOT seeing anywhere here is any talk from you about what you actually would offer women as a sexual partner and friend, which is the relationship it sounds like you want with women: that of a friend and sexual partner. What's in it for a woman who gets involved with you? Because honestly, it's sounding to me -- just based on this post -- that the answer is... well, not much. I see you talking a lot about what a woman can do for your body, and I hear you talking a lot about women's bodies and sexualities in what sounds like a very objectified way to me (and yes, I do see a good deal of stereotyping here, too, as well as some straight-up misogyny). I hear you thinking pretty completely about what you want someone to do for you, based solely on what you want, but I literally don't see anything that suggests what you bring to the table save at the very end there, barely. It also sounds like you have a lot of justifications in here for NOT actually being friends with women, some of which sounds pretty garbage to me, like how you look being a thing that limits your abilities to be friends.
I also want to clarify something:
Women seem to look at oral ex as only a ay do get back what they want. On the other side men giving oral to men do it only for the pleasure of doin it,not necesarily expecting intercourse in return.
Perhaps this has been your experience, but I don't think this is a sound generalization. I think that on the whole, people -- of all genders -- generally don't enjoy or want sexual relationships that feel one-sided, or where they feel like the only sex they have is what a partner wants, and what centers that one partner. By all means, people, including women, can engage in fellatio (penis-receptive oral sex) and enjoy themselves a lot, and like doing that for its own sake. But that is a lot less likely if that person feels objectified throughout, or feels like during that activity and outside of it, their partner doesn't want to engage with their sexuality or what they want, too. What you appear to be looking for is a sexual partner who ONLY wants and enjoys providing oral sex for a partner and nothing else (and if you are looking for someone to be in a monogamous relationship with you, then perhaps who will have that be all their sexual life is, save their own masturbation separate for you).
By all means, there are probably some people in the world who fit that bill, because we are all so sexually diverse that for every way of being sexual, there generally is at least someone -- and often a good deal of someones -- who like a thing. But given some of the other dynamics around all of this, including what sounds like what might be you just literally not seeing a partner past your own wants, chances are good you are not going to have a lot of takers here.