To list an example, I dated this one girl, not too long ago, and I broke up with her because she expected too much from me. In my mind, expecting too much from a partner can be things like:
- expects materialistic gifts, even if they put immense effort into creating something (I spent hours revising and re-writing a poem for my girlfriend, and when I gave it to her, she told me it was "horrible". To be honest, it seemed as if she appreciated the thought, but she was insensitive. Maybe it's just me, or maybe it was just that relationship, but in all of the relationships I've been in (with people my age that is), there is always this sense of insensitivity of the other's feelings.
- expects a change in another for the benefit of themselves: my girlfriend would always tell me that I'm boring, weird, and just not interesting to begin with. At first, I took it as a joke but soon discovered that she actually meant those things, and not in any sort of playful way. I remember, one relationship I thoroughly enjoyed, my only male-female relationship, he would listen to me talk for hours, and never say anything negative about whatever I was interested in. He encouraged me to be interested in all types of things, and never criticized me for my interests or hobbies. In my most recent relationship on the other hand, as I had mentioned, she never had anything good to say about me. I really didn't expect much from her, other than her love, fidelity, and to at least comfort me when I felt self-conscious around her or with her about myself. She did the opposite and just made me "feel like shit". She seemed as though she wanted me to change to make me seem less weird in the relationship. She even criticized the smallest things like my taste in music, or my awkwardness to certain situations. I eventually tried changing myself so we would stay together. It seems out of a majority of the relationships I've been in throughout my youth, they all expect something more than the simplicity of love and comfort out of a relationship. What I really mean, is that people my age often expect that if they are in a relationship, it will somehow raise their social status or popularity and it's become a contest. I feel like if I were to find someone older, who I find attractive, and who doesn't expect me to give them this higher class, I would be happier.