Okay so this might so a little odd but recently my brother and I were chatting about dating apps. I had mentioned using them and even meeting up with people on them. But nothing ever came of these meet ups. I did it safely and in public. I told someone where I was going before hand. My brother then asked me what my approach was when I realized I liked the person in a way that was romantic. I said usually I would meet up with that person for coffee and talk to them about it. Now this has only really happened twice and in both cases the guy wasn't interested in the same way. Which is fine even though at the time it was upsetting.
My brother had some interesting advice 'you never tell the other person what you want because then they won't want to give it to you. It's all about the approach, the dance.'
My response was that 'you want sex, I want love' (not that there is anything wrong with either of those things.) He laughed at that and the conversation topic changed but I have been thinking about this now for a while. It's true I am very much to the point with people but I do know to have some tact when I'm talking to people. But really when it comes to sex my brother has had many causal relationships with many different women. On the other hand I'm much more reserved and I would rather have someone special then just a one night stand. It's just not me to do that. That being said I do get a fair amount of attention (not to brag) from both men and women (I'm bisexual).
So I was wondering what did people on here think, is it better to just tell the person you like that you like them or not?