Sorry for the really late reply. Yes, that makes sense. I just tend to be a perfectionist so I’m hard on myself, but I’m trying to work on it.
I think a lot of what you said would be helpful, realizing that we’ve grown up in a society based on assumptions regarding gender and how people of certain genders are “supposed” to act. Also I’ve been trying to question my thought pattern lately, especially if something is bothering me. Questioning what I’m thinking and why tends to work, though I’m sure it would be more helpful to reframe it in a mindful way without being judgemental. It’s a work in progress, but I think as long as I remind myself that and that it’s okay to be there I’ll start cutting myself some slack.
Thanks again for your help