Heather wrote:Great sex -- oh, who am I kidding, even just good sex, or having a good time in a sexual encounter -- can really spin your head. It's not just you, I absolutely promise.
Heather wrote:I think we've known each other long enough for this to be welcome instead of weird, but apologies if I'm guessing wrong about this. I've been where you're at at times, and certainly had to do some learning about how to not rush ahead or put myself *too* out there right from the start. I'm heading back into some casual things myself after having been outside of that for a while, and I have thought back about times like these lately, just to sort of remind myself that while I think I have it all down pretty well at this point, and usually do, it's always smart for me to remember that I do sometimes need to have some caution when it comes to my heart and when it comes to wanting to make things stick that a) maybe weren't meant to be sticky, or b) maybe I don't actually really know yet I want sticky in the first place. (Sticky is maybe a really lousy choice of words for all this, but oh well.)
Heather wrote:One thing that did help me during those times, though, was recognizing that actually, trying to nail things down way too early was more likely to assure a further relationship did NOT happen than that one did. Having been on both sides of that situation a few times, it can feel really suffocating, even a little scary, IME, from the other side.
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