So, I'm a 19 year old girl. I became sexually active in december of last year with my new boyfriend. We would do a lot of foreplay and he was able to make me orgasm both through oral sex and by using his hands. We then had sex and it was amazing. We both went back home for the holidays and spent a month apart. To deal with it, I started masturbating, which I'd never done before (I wasn't too comfortable with it). I found a perfect way to make myself orgasm in no time. Now that I've come back, our sex is still great, with my new found "technique" he can always finish me off easily BUT there is one downside - for some reason I am struggling to find pleasure through oral sex. Don't get me wrong, it feels good and everything, but I just know I'm not going to orgasm. He knows about it, I am always very vocal about my needs and kinda help him when he's down there, but nothing seems to help
I don't understand why! I know orgasming is not always the point but it is very frustrating. Is this normal? What can I do? He feels bad because he feels kind of "useless", you know? Help!