Hello,
I'm 20 and I've been sexually active for about three years, and masturbating for a while before that, but I have never had an orgasm. I'm in a long term relationship with my boyfriend, and was with the big ex for two years, and between these two, there were quite a few lacks of judgement. I thought at first it was because I had only been with one partner, and I just wasn't getting there because we were new to it all, but after having experiences with men and women from various sexual backgrounds, I realised something wasn't working for me. I know the orgasm is not the be all end all of sex - and I have a happy, healthy, exciting sex life with someone I really love - but it's becoming frustrating because I can feel a lot of pleasure but no release. Everyone talks about having this incredible cake, and sometimes I feel like I just get to lick the icing!
I find that I struggle to take pleasure from clitoral stimulation, and it can sometimes be painful, but anything inside can feel really good. I've tried masturbating, using toys, oral and vaginal sex, and I just can't feel that build, even though it all feels good. In the beginning there was anxiety about how I looked and what was expected from me in sexual situations, but I feel more comfortable with all that now, and (hopefully!) communicate well with my current boyfriend, who is very caring and supportive.
I also just want to say how great it was to find this forum full of open, friendly women supporting each other <3
Any advice or anyone experiencing a similar problem would be so much appreciated, thank you guys.