I never thought I'd resort to this but here we go.
I'm 17 years old and since as long as I can remember, I'm talking like aged 5 (although I didn't know what I was doing then,) I've masterbated in what I consider a really strange way. Basically I sit down on something fairly firm, just like you'd sit on a chair and for want of a better phrase I kind of 'wiggle' in circular motions and apply pressure to the whole of my vaginal/clitoral area. More recently I've put a small pillow between my legs when doing this to kind of apply more pressure. I can do this when wearing clothes or not it doesn't particularly make much difference and I always manage to climax/orgasm even though it's not the most satisfying orgasm in the world it's still an orgasm, and I can usually manage it fairly quickly as well like 10/15 minutes maximum, usually about 5.
So throughout my life I've always thought this was a weird way of doing things but it's worked for me so I continued but now the issue is I have a boyfriend who wants to be able to pleasure me himself. I'd also like this to be able to happen however he tried one time and he first inserted a finger into my vagina which just hurt completely (I'd never had anything inserted before) I eventually told him to stop this and go for the clit which ended up feeling slightly less painful but still kind of painful. I tried to instruct him to use a lighter touch because it was kind of hurting but even then I was still feeling much more pain than pleasure. He proceeded to try for a short while before eventually giving up.
So since then I've had a go myself because I'd put off touching myself before this and it feels roughly the same as what it did with him, I can tell when I touch my clit but it feels more like a shooting pain than pleasure and so I tried kind of touching all the areas around my clit but to no real avail, I just get nothing from it besides slight pain. And even afterwards I end up with a strange kind of stabbing feeling in my clit when I move around afterwards that takes a short while to stop occurring
I just don't know what to do because I want my boyfriend to be able to pleasure me but I can only masterbate in that very strange way! Please help me (also does anyone else masterbate remotely like that or am I super weird?)