Before I say anything else, I just want to comment that the emotional tenor of your response here sounds very panicked to me. That suggests to me something you have already pretty clearly stated for yourself here, that the idea of moving into sex -- and when we say sex, we don't just mean intercourse, but simply ways of actively expressing and exploring your sexuality with another person -- anytime soon with someone else, or even yourself, alone right now, feels like too much, too soon.
I'd encourage you to listen to yourself in that department. By all means, sexual desire can feel very heady and immediate, and I also understand wanting to grab at an opportunity if it feels like you've waited a long time for one, or you worry (even though, again, this isn't likely reality) it may be the only one you get. However, feeling rushed into any kind of sex, or trying to do things that freak you out, that feel over your head, that you feel grossly unprepared for just doesn't result in sex that feels like a good thing and brings benefits to people's lives. And if it doesn't benefit you, and isn't something you find you feel good about, what's the point?
Really, if you want my take this DOES sound like too much too soon: way too much, too soon. You DO sound grossly unprepared, and like you need some real time to start educating yourself and start your own process of exploration with your sexuality and sex by yourself, and when someone else is involved, only with someone else when it can happen at a pace that you really feel comfortable with. This just doesn't sound like that situation, if for no other reason than that it doesn't sound like you -- all by yourself -- are at the point where you are able to give yourself permission to have your own pace and start exploring this in a way that really aligns with where you're at.
Know what I mean?
Looking at your questions above, I can give you some more pieces to get you started with the education and self-reflection piece.
When you ask about things like if you can stop sex if it doesn't feel right, you're asking about sexual consenting, which isn't about a yes or no once, but throughout any sexual activity, for everyone involved, always. So yes, anyone -- you included -- always has the right to stop, pause, ask for something different, the works. And no, that's not leading someone on, because no one owes anyone sex, ever. Just like you can agree to go see a movie with friends and walk out in the middle if you hate it or are just bored and it's not a big deal, the same should go with sex.
Some starter content on that arena:
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Driver's Ed for the Sexual Superhighway: Navigating Consent
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Don't Want To Have Sex?
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Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots
When you ask about finding yourself in a sexual situation where you want to do everything sexual under the sun: a) given how many things people can do at one time, or even in one day, that's not realistically possible (:P), and b) again, feeling the sexual desire to do sexual things is ONE piece of our sexual choices, not all the pieces. So, if you ever find you want to do a bunch of sexual things -- you feel the sexual desire for them -- and ALSO are in a situation where that's right for you and everyone else in all the ways, then great! In that case, doing those things is likely to be a good choice for you and that other person. On the other hand, if you feel sexual desire for things that aren't right in some way, or in a bunch of ways -- like not feeling ready or able to openly communicate, like feeling shameful and emotionally conflicted, like feeling unable to set limits you need because you are too worried about what the other person will think of you -- then chances are good that putting those desires into action in that situation isn't the wisest thing of ever.
Here is some content that can fill you in on some of that:
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How to Understand, Identify and Make Choices About Desire (Know I already linked you to this, but sounds like you might not have really absorbed some of it, given this last response, unless your panic about all of this is just clouding your thinking, which is totally possible -- thus, I'd circle back to what I said up there about listening to your own feelings and recognizing that if all this is making you panic, it's a clear message from your head that sexual activity with someone else, or this someone else, anytime soon is clearly too soon for you)
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Risky Business: Learning to Consider Risk and Make Sound Sexual Choices
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Safer Sex...for Your Heart
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Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast
I want to put in a reminder that sexual readiness, or a sexual life and sexuality, full-stop, isn't a test you can cram for and ace. So, when I share a bunch of links like this, my aim is to give you some things to take real time to read, then real time to start thinking about, over time. Time as in days, weeks and months, not minutes or hours. Not only does it take real time just to read and digest this stuff, it takes even more time to really marinate in it, reflect on it, and then start to figure out how to contextualize it with who you are, what you want and need, and the circumstances of your own life.