Feminine underthings?

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Feminine underthings?

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Any idea on how I can wear more feminine things under my clothes without it being noticeable?
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Re: Feminine underthings?

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Hi KittyPink!
When you say "underthings," are you talking about underwear and bras or clothes in general to wear under your everyday clothes?
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Mainly underwear.
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Oh, and like some clothes, like leggings and tights, and anything you can think of that's less noticeable.
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As long as your clothes aren't super tight, it shouldn't be noticeable. Even if they are tight, there is underwear designed with certain fabrics and cuts that are especially made not to show. Try searching for 'no pantyline underwear'.
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Like Emily said, there are underwear that don't have seams- no pantyline underwear. Most "panty" style underwear should be fine as long as you're not wearing super tight jeans or something :) I wear leggings under almost all of my pants all throughout winter, that's an option too. (Bonus: it's extra warm and cozy!) Most tights definitely won't show, especially like sheer footless stockings. If you're interested in bras, you could try light sports bras meant to just cover you up rather than support breasts- they tend to be more likely to be seamless and thin fabrics that won't show through shirts. Also, you can try them on in store to make sure they won't show through.
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Okay, any of you have an idea where I could look for these things cheap?
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I'm not sure what shopping looks like where you live, but pretty much any clothing store or department store that sells clothing should sell them. None of the things I mentioned are uncommon.
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Danny S. wrote:I'm not sure what shopping looks like where you live, but pretty much any clothing store or department store that sells clothing should sell them. None of the things I mentioned are uncommon.
Okay. I should look around, then.
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Oh, and an additional thing, anyone have an idea on reducing the bulge down there?
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This piece from our Trans Summer School series has some tips and is probably a good place to start: http://www.scarleteen.com/trans_summer_ ... ssion_gear
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Karyn wrote:This piece from our Trans Summer School series has some tips and is probably a good place to start: http://www.scarleteen.com/trans_summer_ ... ssion_gear
Oh my god, I forgot about that article in the series. Thanks for that.
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I got news, I should be getting stuff off of Amazon soon. Just have to arrange alternative shipping addresses.
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I ran into an issue, I may be inbetween sizes, which may make finding things hard. (Although, I haven't took measurements in awhile.)
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When I'm in between sizes I just go based off of the desired fit! Really whatever is most comfortable. With underwear, I would recommend going with the larger size.
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ashleah wrote:When I'm in between sizes I just go based off of the desired fit! Really whatever is most comfortable. With underwear, I would recommend going with the larger size.
Thanks, I should also keep in mind that I could wash them with cold water to shrink them if need be.
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Another good idea would be to look in the girls and / or Junior's underwear section of sites / stores if you want more modest, and playful but as flashy underwear and bras that can easily be hidden under clothes.
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Someone wrote:Another good idea would be to look in the girls and / or Junior's underwear section of sites / stores if you want more modest, and playful but as flashy underwear and bras that can easily be hidden under clothes.
Any ideas if I'm looking on Amazon?
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If you look up girls underwear you should get the same results, a child size 10-12 large in clothing is the same as a women's extra small.

You might want to try a bralette which kind of like a cross between a padded bra and a sports bra or maybe try a camisole tank top undershirt which usually have an extra piece of fabric built in on the inside that acts like a bra.

More info on different types of bras: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of ... re_designs

I hope you can find something you like! :)
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Someone wrote:If you look up girls underwear you should get the same results, a child size 10-12 large in clothing is the same as a women's extra small.

You might want to try a bralette which kind of like a cross between a padded bra and a sports bra or maybe try a camisole tank top undershirt which usually have an extra piece of fabric built in on the inside that acts like a bra.

More info on different types of bras: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of ... re_designs

I hope you can find something you like! :)
Thanks for the help! :)
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KittyPink wrote:
Someone wrote:If you look up girls underwear you should get the same results, a child size 10-12 large in clothing is the same as a women's extra small.

You might want to try a bralette which kind of like a cross between a padded bra and a sports bra or maybe try a camisole tank top undershirt which usually have an extra piece of fabric built in on the inside that acts like a bra.

More info on different types of bras: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of ... re_designs



I hope you can find something you like! :)
Thanks for the help! :)
Got some stuff, snuck it into the house. Thanks, spring cleaning! I'm so nervous it's going to get found.
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I'm glad you found some underwear you like! Hopefully you'll be able to keep it in a private place where it won't be interfered with. Depending on how much privacy you have in your room (if anyone else comes in to clean/grab laundry/poke around) you might have luck keeping things under your mattress, behind books on a bookshelf, in a box of old items in a closet, etc.
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Mo wrote:I'm glad you found some underwear you like! Hopefully you'll be able to keep it in a private place where it won't be interfered with. Depending on how much privacy you have in your room (if anyone else comes in to clean/grab laundry/poke around) you might have luck keeping things under your mattress, behind books on a bookshelf, in a box of old items in a closet, etc.
Going to keep them in my locker for now.
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Sounds like a great plan :)
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Have any idea how I can check to see if I have an obvious panty line?
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