So my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, we were both virgins when we started dating, we've both been tested and we're both clean. We've been sexually active for a few months and I've had my IUD for a little over a year. We usually use condoms with it, not because we're worried about STD's but just for an extra precaution for pregnancy (he likes the condoms as he's very worried about me getting pregnant). Long story short we were making out the other day, and it was leading to sex, and one thing happened and then another and we ended up having sex without a condom. He pulled out but was still freaking out, saying I would get pregnant and this and that. Since then he's shown little interest in sex.
I'm open to sex without a condom as I've done my research and know the IUD is very effective with or without a condom, and I've shown him sources saying this but he still freaks out. Any advice? And what are your opinions on sex using an IUD with and without a condom?
IUD Effectiveness
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Re: IUD Effectiveness
I'm not sure our/my opinions on that are what matter here, because this is about what you and your partner want and need. It sounds like he pretty clearly only feels comfortable still using condoms.
Do I have that right? If so, I'm curious about what you're looking for here and why you're trying, if I am getting this right, to convince your partner not to use them when he wants to. Are you having an issue with condoms -- like an allergy or something else -- being used? If so, what is that issue?
Do I have that right? If so, I'm curious about what you're looking for here and why you're trying, if I am getting this right, to convince your partner not to use them when he wants to. Are you having an issue with condoms -- like an allergy or something else -- being used? If so, what is that issue?
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