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by Snorkmaiden
Tue Aug 16, 2016 11:23 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would be the odds of a pregnancy in this situation?
Replies: 1
Views: 1762

Re: What would be the odds of a pregnancy in this situation?

So you used condoms and withdrawal? You can look up the effectiveness of that combination in this article:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexua ... ol_with_a_
by Snorkmaiden
Thu Jun 16, 2016 2:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Orlando
Replies: 14
Views: 6177

Re: Orlando

I don't have a lot of words for what happened. They all seem to come up short. But I want to offer my heartfelt sympathy and support to all those affected. I'm so, so sorry.

Hate crimes suck to high heavens.
by Snorkmaiden
Sun May 01, 2016 10:02 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Advice from early bloomers?
Replies: 2
Views: 2887

Re: Advice from early bloomers?

They sell crop tops as underwear for girls nowadays, maybe you could get her some? They're not bras, so they are suitable for young girls, but may still make her feel more at ease as she'll have some more coverage.
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Mar 27, 2016 3:56 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: It's really weighing me down a lot.
Replies: 43
Views: 14048

Re: It's really weighing me down a lot.

Hey there,
Sorry to hear you're feeling so down on yourself. Is there anything you can do right now that might make you feel a tiny bit better? Maybe a specific song you can listen to, or a video of your favourite animal that you can watch?
by Snorkmaiden
Thu Mar 24, 2016 5:48 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Very Sexualy Confused Teenager
Replies: 33
Views: 14418

Re: Very Sexualy Confused Teenager

Tarho, I hope you don't mind me butting in. I want to tell you that while it's not a rule, most of us find that the age of people who we feel attracted to shifts over the years. Often, it more or less keeps pace with our own age. It's not something that happens for everyone, but it's something that ...
by Snorkmaiden
Tue Mar 15, 2016 12:07 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: It's really weighing me down a lot.
Replies: 43
Views: 14048

Re: It's really weighing me down a lot.

Glad to hear it.

As for how serious it is: Well, it's clearly serious enough to make you feel pretty rotten. And no one should be made to feel that way.
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Mar 13, 2016 7:48 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is "good" touch and "bad" touch?
Replies: 13
Views: 37581

Re: What is "good" touch and "bad" touch?

Then that's a sign that they are not a safe person for you to be around, and it's best to stay away from them as much as you can.
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Mar 13, 2016 2:35 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is "good" touch and "bad" touch?
Replies: 13
Views: 37581

Re: What is "good" touch and "bad" touch?

I'd try to keep it very simple and clear, and make a statement about yourself, not about the other person (because that might be seen as an accusation, and they might get defensive). How about 'I don't like it when you do that'? Would that work? Everyone has the right to like or not like things that...
by Snorkmaiden
Thu Mar 10, 2016 1:14 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Expectations about your identity?
Replies: 2
Views: 3419

Re: Expectations about your identity?

People who haven't met me before often think I must be a lesbian. It's probably because I have short hair and a pretty butch clothing style. I don't mind one bit, because I'm fine with people thinking that about me... even though it's not true at all!
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Mar 06, 2016 2:17 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: "Not Like Other Girls" In Media that Shaped Me
Replies: 10
Views: 6027

Re: "Not Like Other Girls" In Media that Shaped Me

I also really love Sam, because he plants all those trees and also has a plan for his future other than "um, well, uh, I'll just ride around brandishing my sword and, um, be cool." Yes! I loved that too. It can't all just be swordfights for evermore, normal life needs to recommence sooner...
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Mar 06, 2016 5:14 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: "Not Like Other Girls" In Media that Shaped Me
Replies: 10
Views: 6027

Re: "Not Like Other Girls" In Media that Shaped Me

I didn't really see anything wrong with female characters who were kind, nurturing, peaceful, gentle, etc. Neither did I. But I could not really relate to them. And yes, I felt disappointed that Eowyn returned to her 'natural role' in the end. To me, it felt like a forced choice, not a happily made...
by Snorkmaiden
Tue Feb 09, 2016 1:30 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Safe remedies for yeast itching before appointment?
Replies: 2
Views: 9400

Re: Safe remedies for yeast itching before appointment?

Coconut oil is soothing and mildly antifungal, but you'll need to ask your doctor whether it will make your infection harder to diagnose.
by Snorkmaiden
Mon Feb 01, 2016 2:07 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Not ok
Replies: 6
Views: 4798

Re: Not ok

You are not wasting anyone's time here. You are always, always welcome to come here when you need to vent. You haven't heard from me before but I'm very sorry to hear you are feeling so low and afraid! If I could I'd give you a big hug (if you wanted one) and a big mug of tea and let you talk all yo...
by Snorkmaiden
Tue Jan 19, 2016 3:49 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Big turn off from boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 3682

Re: Big turn off from boyfriend

I'd first of all stop smiling when he does that, because that is someting that tells him that you are enjoying it. So you are sending out a signal which is the opposite of what you mean. That's gotta be confusing. Furthermore, even sensitive people should be able to cope with it if someone tells the...
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Jan 17, 2016 9:46 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I go to my regular doctor?
Replies: 8
Views: 3420

Re: Can I go to my regular doctor?

If you can't see the string and can't feel the tampon, but you can feel your cervix, then I'd say the chance that it's still inside your vagina is very small indeed. Is there any change that you may have lost it, for example during a bowel movement?
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Jan 17, 2016 4:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I go to my regular doctor?
Replies: 8
Views: 3420

Re: Can I go to my regular doctor?

Yes, a general doctor should be able to do this. They should have enough knowledge of your anatomy. So I'm assuming it did not help when you sat in the bath and used your fingers to get water into your vaginal canal to wet the tampon? Sorry to hear it. Then yes, going to your doctor is a good soluti...
by Snorkmaiden
Fri Jan 01, 2016 2:35 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel slutty for enjoying it and selfish for being scared
Replies: 5
Views: 6275

Re: I feel slutty for enjoying it and selfish for being scared

And anyway, why is it society's business what I do with my body in this regard? It's not like all these strangers whose judgement I fear are having sex with me. It's not like they're in the room watching us when my boyfriend and I are together. Really, the only person their judgement affects is the...
by Snorkmaiden
Tue Dec 29, 2015 3:25 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: The Egg and the Sperm: what you didn't learn in school
Replies: 1
Views: 2522

Re: The Egg and the Sperm: what you didn't learn in school

Great point! You could say the same about what we learn about sexual roles. It's always about 'penetrating' and never about 'engulfing', which can just as easily be seen as an active role! No one ever told me that in heterosexual intercourse, it's not a given that one party is active and the other i...
by Snorkmaiden
Fri Nov 13, 2015 2:52 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Nipple hair
Replies: 8
Views: 4362

Re: Nipple hair

I get them too. I don't really care for the way they look, so I remove them with tweezers. It's never caused any problems so far.
by Snorkmaiden
Fri Nov 06, 2015 3:35 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: IUS experiences?
Replies: 3
Views: 2470

Re: IUS experiences?

Well, for what it's worth: my experience was clearly positive. I used Mirena for ten years and had no bad side effects (some acne on my back, but that was all). For several years, I did not menstruate at all which I thought was great. Insertion was no fun, but my second time around, the doctor gave ...
by Snorkmaiden
Mon Oct 19, 2015 4:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over relationship nerves?
Replies: 3
Views: 2333

Re: How to get over relationship nerves?

(Oops! Sorry about that, Sam, I must have overlooked in which area it was posted.)
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Oct 18, 2015 9:18 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ready but not ready?
Replies: 1
Views: 1984

Re: Ready but not ready?

You could link her to some great Scarleteen articles like these: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist http://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics/dont_want_to_have_sex http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/whoa_there_how_to_slow...
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Oct 18, 2015 9:08 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Some concerns that I have
Replies: 21
Views: 7563

Re: Some concerns that I have

sqlpecan, I haven't responded to you before but I've been reading your story. I'm so glad to hear that you are feeling better now! It sounded like he was not doing you any good. You are right: not being in a relationship is a whole lot better than being in one with someone who is bringing you down. ...
by Snorkmaiden
Sun Oct 18, 2015 2:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over relationship nerves?
Replies: 3
Views: 2333

Re: How to get over relationship nerves?

I'd personally start with lowering the stakes. a lot. I would not talk to him about starting a relationship, I'd simply say 'So, I was wondering... wanna go out some time?' and see how he reacts. It's much less loaded than making this about a relationship, it's just about possibly going out, there's...

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