Search found 1117 matches

by Mo
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 6
Views: 312

Re: Boundaries

There was some disappointment when my partner wasn't super excited about the thing I was excited about, but I was glad he'd felt comfortable telling me, and I felt like it was pretty easy to get past the disapppointment by focusing on things that we know we both enjoy. If this had been a situation w...
by Mo
Fri Apr 19, 2019 3:26 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Period Problems
Replies: 7
Views: 1639

Re: Period Problems

Checking in with a gynecologist when you're able to seems like a good idea for some additional peace of mind. Like Heather in their earlier comment, I don't see anything particularly concerning in your descriptions of your periods, but it may be helpful to talk to a doctor about them all the same. Y...
by Mo
Tue Apr 16, 2019 4:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 6
Views: 312

Re: Boundaries

The last time I was working out boundaries with a partner, it was when I'd asked to try something new to both of us and wanted to be able to know exactly when it was going to happen, direct the action, stop when needed, etc. I was able to ask for these really specific things, and be clear that there...
by Mo
Tue Apr 16, 2019 4:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: implantation bleeding or broken hymen?
Replies: 3
Views: 127

Re: implantation bleeding or broken hymen?

I don't see any reason to assume that's what it was, based on what you've said here.
by Mo
Tue Apr 16, 2019 2:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: implantation bleeding or broken hymen?
Replies: 3
Views: 127

Re: implantation bleeding or broken hymen?

We can't necessarily know exactly what happened here, but it is pretty common for people to experience some vaginal bleeding after a partner's been rough or heavy-handed during manual sex or intercourse. Your vaginal tissue is pretty delicate, and rough treatment can cause very small abrasions or te...
by Mo
Mon Apr 15, 2019 2:32 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dates
Replies: 3
Views: 206

Re: Dates

How exciting! :)
by Mo
Mon Apr 15, 2019 2:32 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: romantic dream of my friend
Replies: 11
Views: 377

Re: romantic dream of my friend

Those all sound like good things. One thing I want to mention, since you talk about having a hard time maintaining a relationship with yourself, is that some daily journaling or other structured reflection might be helpful. I find that I sometimes have a hard time identifying how I'm feeling in the ...
by Mo
Tue Apr 09, 2019 3:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Bleeding after sex or period?
Replies: 1
Views: 115

Re: Bleeding after sex or period?

I'm glad you're making an appointment with a new gynecologist; I agree that that's going to be your best next step here. Since you're worried that this might be bleeding related to sex, do you want to talk at all about ways to avoid that in the future? Were you experiencing pain as well? Also, if yo...
by Mo
Tue Apr 09, 2019 2:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I just read a bunch of questionable information on birth control and I need to know if any of it is actually true
Replies: 3
Views: 333

Re: I just read a bunch of questionable information on birth control and I need to know if any of it is actually true

This information you found online certainly does sound questionable, I agree! Some people can find that hormonal birth control impacts their mood, but not everyone does, and there's no direct relation between birth control and specifically losing interest in a partner. And for people who do notice c...
by Mo
Fri Apr 05, 2019 3:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What do you want in a relationship?
Replies: 2
Views: 173

Re: What do you want in a relationship?

I like all of the relationship qualities that have been named so far! In a romantic relationship, I want to have an ease/comfort with the other person; it's nice to be with someone I can talk to just as easily as I can happily sit in the same room quietly with them without feeling awkward. I also li...
by Mo
Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Parents
Replies: 17
Views: 680

Re: Parents

I don't think this makes you stupid or immature at all. It's good to think about whether or not you're ready for sex before you have it, for sure, but just like with many other things in life it isn't always possible to know how you feel about sexual activity until you've had it. It's ok to think yo...
by Mo
Mon Apr 01, 2019 3:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 3646

Re: ?

I think whether it will work really depends on if you're both willing and able to read more about how healthy relationships work, take that information to heart, and be able to talk about the issues you've had and how you're going to make changes moving forward in how you treat each other.
by Mo
Mon Apr 01, 2019 2:18 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: G Spot Issue
Replies: 2
Views: 481

Re: G Spot Issue

While plenty of people find g spot stimulation to be pleasurable, it isn't a guaranteed orgasm-button; it's not strange or unusual to not have an orgasm just from g spot contact. You may find that with experimentation in terms of how you're stimulating it or what else is happening at the same time, ...
by Mo
Fri Mar 29, 2019 3:10 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Talk show
Replies: 8
Views: 781

Re: Talk show

Blogging might be a good place to start, because figuring out audio and broadcasting logistics could be trickier than finding a place to host a blog online. I think using Heather's journaling idea to start writing down ideas and possible plans could be a good way to get things going and see what sor...
by Mo
Mon Mar 25, 2019 3:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Serious Relationship Help
Replies: 3
Views: 501

Re: Serious Relationship Help

If I'm understanding this situation correctly, it sounds like your ex broke up with you but also wants you to be ready to enter a relationship again if he decides he wants to. Do I have that right? I can understand why it might be hard to give him space right now if he's talking about how he isn't f...
by Mo
Fri Mar 22, 2019 4:49 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 4
Views: 493

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

I also need to read that third Wayfarer book! I adore the first two. I haven't been reading as much lately as I usually do, sadly, but I wholeheartedly recommend Ann Leckie's Imperial Radch series (Ancillary Justice, Ancillary Mercy, & Ancillary Sword). The series does some interesting stuff wit...
by Mo
Fri Mar 22, 2019 4:48 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Periods and gender
Replies: 3
Views: 977

Re: Periods and gender

I remember really trying to make peace with my periods for a long time, even though they tended to be unpleasant at best due to a lot of pain and irregularity. Long before I questioned my gender I remember reading some books that tried to tie menstruation in with the "sacred feminine" and ...
by Mo
Tue Mar 12, 2019 2:09 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Top Surgery
Replies: 6
Views: 3568

Re: Top Surgery

I'm so glad you're happy with your results! That's great to hear.
by Mo
Mon Mar 11, 2019 3:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship
Replies: 3
Views: 691

Re: relationship

Using physical force to keep you from leaving a bed or a room is not ok at all. If he doesn't want you to leave, he's welcome to ask you to stay, but it's wrong for him to grab you to prevent you from leaving, especially when he's doing it hard enough to cause you pain or discomfort.
by Mo
Fri Feb 22, 2019 5:32 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: My Partner said something that made me feel worried about her
Replies: 48
Views: 3843

Re: My Partner said something that made me feel worried about her

The reason to talk with her is because you like her and want to share things about your life with her! Closely monitoring or trying to control her movements or behaviors is what you want to avoid. If you have concerns about some of her behaviors, you can talk to her about them, but the appropriate f...
by Mo
Mon Feb 18, 2019 4:11 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Unable to feel
Replies: 5
Views: 1314

Re: Unable to feel

When you're being sexual with your boyfriend, how comfortable do you feel talking with him about what does and doesn't feel good to you, giving feedback or direction (like moving his hand to the right or using more or less pressure), or asking to try something different? On the topic of not feeling ...
by Mo
Mon Feb 18, 2019 3:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Pet peeves
Replies: 1
Views: 894

Re: Pet peeves

My cohabitating partner and I have had some conflict over chores in the past; there were a few things, like washing the dishes or scooping out the litter boxes, that they would say they'd do but not take care of, so I found myself either doing them myself or having to remind them over and over again...
by Mo
Fri Feb 15, 2019 6:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What is going on with my therapist?
Replies: 1
Views: 702

Re: What is going on with my therapist?

Hi Jasmine, and welcome to Scarleteen. I think you're right to be questioning some of your therapist's actions, because it doesn't sound like he's behaving appropriately in a lot of situations. To be clear: it's just not ok for a therapist to talk to you about his marriage or personal life; therapis...
by Mo
Fri Feb 15, 2019 4:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to finger your vagina by yourself
Replies: 14
Views: 1625

Re: How to finger your vagina by yourself

If it would feel helpful for you to talk about it, you're welcome to! Mostly we want to make sure we're giving you support around that assault if that's something you'd like us to help with. :)
by Mo
Fri Feb 15, 2019 3:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 5
Views: 1284

Re: confused

I think it's a great idea to talk to your counselor about this anxiety! Since you have appointments with your counselor and doctor lined up already, it sounds like you're on the right track to get some help in dealing with these pregnancy fears. :)

Can't find what you're looking for? Try searching our old board archive or our main site.

Go to advanced search