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by Mo
Tue Jan 22, 2019 6:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is smegma a problem I really need to worry about?
Replies: 4
Views: 73

Re: Is smegma a problem I really need to worry about?

We can't diagnose your situation exactly, but what you're describing could potentially be an indicator of something like a yeast infection or other issue that's important to check in with a doctor about. This article talks a bit about what's normal discharge and what's more of a cause for concern: H...
by Mo
Tue Jan 22, 2019 5:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is smegma a problem I really need to worry about?
Replies: 4
Views: 73

Re: Is smegma a problem I really need to worry about?

Most likely, there isn't going to be much in the way of heavy-duty cleaning that you need to take care of for general maintenance. If you feel like you aren't comfortable touching any part of your vulva at all, making sure you're letting the water run over that area when you take a shower will be pr...
by Mo
Tue Jan 22, 2019 4:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: masterbation and sex problems
Replies: 5
Views: 54

Re: masterbation and sex problems

You're very welcome!
by Mo
Tue Jan 22, 2019 3:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: masterbation and sex problems
Replies: 5
Views: 54

Re: masterbation and sex problems

Ok, thanks for clarifying. It's really common for the kinds of touch that people engage in during masturbation to feel underwhelming, neutral, or actively painful/irritating when they aren't feeling aroused. Some of that is due to the physical changes that happen in the body during periods of arousa...
by Mo
Tue Jan 22, 2019 3:30 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: masterbation and sex problems
Replies: 5
Views: 54

Re: masterbation and sex problems

Hi prettypanther, and welcome to Scarleteen. :)

Just to clarify, it sounds like you're not feeling much (if any) arousal before you start masturbating, or during masturbation - do I have that right?
by Mo
Mon Jan 21, 2019 5:01 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Parental Abuse Leading to Harmful Self-Hate
Replies: 9
Views: 130

Re: Parental Abuse Leading to Harmful Self-Hate

The process of healing from abuse can take a while, for sure; it doesn't mean you'll never feel better, but it is a process that can take a while, especially when you're still in an abusive environment. Do you want to talk at all about making a plan, even a really long-term one, for getting out of y...
by Mo
Mon Jan 21, 2019 3:42 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Parental Abuse Leading to Harmful Self-Hate
Replies: 9
Views: 130

Re: Parental Abuse Leading to Harmful Self-Hate

Just so you know, there are many people out there who either dislike intercourse or feel neutral about it. It isn't just you who feels this way, it doesn't mean you're abnormal, and it doesn't mean that your non-intercourse sexual history has been less important or that the rape you experienced wasn...
by Mo
Fri Jan 11, 2019 6:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Avoiding Relationships
Replies: 11
Views: 562

Re: Avoiding Relationships

It's definitely ok if you feel like making the first move winds up feeling exhausting or awkward. I think that in some ways, it can get easier with practice, but it can also feel like a series of awkward conversations so it's just fine to take a break from that. Maybe cultivating friendships with a ...
by Mo
Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it bad sex or is it me?
Replies: 17
Views: 578

Re: Is it bad sex or is it me?

I'm glad you were able to bring these issues up with her, although it sounds like her responses were pretty mixed in terms of how receptive she was. For her to hear you say that you don't like something and respond with "you don't know what you like" is dismissive and honestly pretty disre...
by Mo
Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:48 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure
Replies: 1
Views: 252

Re: No Pleasure

Hi monkeybird, welcome to Scarleteen. Do you find that you aren't feeling pleasure at all when masturbating? Or have there been times that something's felt good (whether that resulted in orgasm or not)? It may be helpful to experiment with different kinds of touch when you're masturbating, to see if...
by Mo
Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:45 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Odd feeling in my stomach after first time?
Replies: 3
Views: 282

Re: Odd feeling in my stomach after first time?

Hi Amputance, and welcome to Scarleteen. :)

We can't know exactly what's happening in your body right now, but we do know that some people do experience nausea or cramping after taking emergency contraception; it could be that you're just feeling some of the pretty common side effects of Plan B.
by Mo
Fri Jan 04, 2019 5:33 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Starting Birth Control Pill
Replies: 3
Views: 801

Re: Starting Birth Control Pill

The insert that came with your pill pack should tell you how long it will take for the pill to be fully effective, so you can check that there (or on the manufacturer's website, most likely, if you threw away the insert). Many pills are fully effective at 7 days, although we tend to suggest people w...
by Mo
Tue Jan 01, 2019 6:03 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: virgin or not?
Replies: 1
Views: 864

Re: virgin or not?

Hopefully I managed to address your question sufficiently in chat! :) Let us know if you have any followup questions.
by Mo
Tue Jan 01, 2019 4:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discovering who I am??
Replies: 14
Views: 1359

Re: Discovering who I am??

Not necessarily; sometimes bodies will have a physical reaction even if someone isn't particularly turned on by something. Bodies and sexual response can be weird!
by Mo
Tue Jan 01, 2019 4:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis and foreskin
Replies: 4
Views: 716

Re: Penis and foreskin

If it hurts when you or someone else tries to pull your foreskin back, definitely don't force it; it's possible to injure yourself that way. This is something you could ask your doctor about; we have more info in this article about foreskins: A Foreskin Foray: Questions, Concerns, & Clarificatio...
by Mo
Tue Jan 01, 2019 3:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condoms and blowjobs
Replies: 5
Views: 658

Re: Condoms and blowjobs

Nope! You can get condoms from a shop at any age. Many sexual health clinics and Brook centers have them available for free, as well.
by Mo
Mon Dec 31, 2018 4:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discovering who I am??
Replies: 14
Views: 1359

Re: Discovering who I am??

To be honest, I don't think a dream always has to mean something specific about your sexuality; even when you're practicing lucid dreaming and having more "active" dreams, in dreams the brain spits out all sorts of scenarios and they don't always have to reflect your true desires or anythi...
by Mo
Mon Dec 31, 2018 3:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discovering who I am??
Replies: 14
Views: 1359

Re: Discovering who I am??

Have you done any journaling around this? Sometimes it can be helpful to keep some kind of record of your thoughts, so that over time you might be able to see a pattern in how you're feeling, or note how things have changed. I understand that there can be a big comfort in having a concrete sense of ...
by Mo
Fri Dec 28, 2018 6:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Not that drunk but scared i might habe had sex
Replies: 6
Views: 772

Re: Not that drunk but scared i might habe had sex

Hi there Dont know, welcome to Scarleteen. This sounds like a stressful situation, for sure. Do you know if the boy you were with was drinking as well, and are there are parts of the evening he doesn't remember? Is he someone you generally feel you can trust? It sounds like you feel fairly sure you ...
by Mo
Fri Dec 28, 2018 4:29 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Advice on trying something new in the bedroom
Replies: 2
Views: 512

Re: Advice on trying something new in the bedroom

One bonus safety tip: invest in a pair of scissors you know can cut through whatever you're using as rope, and make sure they're always within arm's reach. It's important to be able to release your partner quickly and easily, in case something's tied too tight, or there's an issue with cramping or c...
by Mo
Fri Dec 28, 2018 4:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discovering who I am??
Replies: 14
Views: 1359

Re: Discovering who I am??

We don't have a PM system here, but you're welcome to use the live chat again, any time you'd like to have a one-on-one conversation. :)
by Mo
Fri Dec 28, 2018 3:49 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Friends with benefits 1st time sex
Replies: 13
Views: 1170

Re: Friends with benefits 1st time sex

Hi there, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to hear that sex didn't work out how you were hoping! (It sounds like when you say "sex" here you're specifically talking about intercourse, so my suggestions are based on that; please do correct me if I'm wrong.) If you're feeling "tight...
by Mo
Tue Dec 25, 2018 4:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual fulfilment
Replies: 28
Views: 1827

Re: Sexual fulfilment

It's something you'll really wind up understanding over time, more than anything else. This can be where journaling is helpful; you can keep track of sexual thoughts you have, or how you feel about different aspects of sex or sexuality, and see if there are patterns that emerge or things that shift ...
by Mo
Mon Dec 24, 2018 5:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual fulfilment
Replies: 28
Views: 1827

Re: Sexual fulfilment

If there are things like different ways to touch yourself while masturbating, fantasies you haven't fully explored, etc. that you are interested in, you can certainly try those out. We can't really give specifics, since what will be sexually exciting varies so much from person to person, but any sor...
by Mo
Mon Dec 24, 2018 5:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual fulfilment
Replies: 28
Views: 1827

Re: Sexual fulfilment

Taking a break and not forcing yourself to masturbate when you aren't really strongly feeling it might be a way to help things feel exciting and pleasurable when you do get back to it. Even when you do have erections, you never have to act on that physical reaction by masturbating; they'll go away e...

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