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by Jacob
Thu Apr 18, 2019 8:04 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 2
Views: 162

Re: Masturbation

Hi Beaubee! I'm not sure I can advise, as your learning how your body reacts to stimulus is something you are currently learning in far more detail than we could guess! I would say to perhaps keep doing what you're doing choosing places where it's ok to pee! Through that, you might learn ways to con...
by Jacob
Thu Apr 18, 2019 7:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confuse about period after reading articles!
Replies: 3
Views: 134

Re: Confuse about period after reading articles!

Hi Pan, It surely is superstition, and sexism. But that's a difficult thing to change. There are also different histories in different places where people are demonised for having periods so I couldn't be sure where it comes from for your community. You say you don't feel like you can share this wit...
by Jacob
Thu Apr 18, 2019 5:36 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: How to cope with an expected death of a partner
Replies: 8
Views: 468

Re: How to cope with an expected death of a partner

Hi Herstory, it sounds like you have a lot of support around you! That is great to hear!
by Jacob
Thu Apr 18, 2019 4:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: About my anal health.
Replies: 9
Views: 450

Re: About my anal health.

You know the digestive system largely gets a helping hand just from us moving around. So this is probably just some simple cause and effect. Tap the shampoo bottle and some shampoo will probably come out.
by Jacob
Thu Apr 18, 2019 4:34 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Question about blue veins on breasts?
Replies: 2
Views: 140

Re: Question about blue veins on breasts?

Hi nutmeg! I think this is quite a common effect of birth control. If you have experienced a change in breast size this could go with that change. All body parts have veins! They might become more or less visible at different times but they are always there. More information about hormonal birth con...
by Jacob
Wed Apr 10, 2019 12:44 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: How to cope with an expected death of a partner
Replies: 8
Views: 468

Re: How to cope with an expected death of a partner

Hi Herstory, It sounds like this has been a part of his life for at least a year. I wonder if he's told you what he'd like from you and this relationship in the couple of months you've been involved with each other? Is his cancer something he brought up when you started dating? I ask because it can ...
by Jacob
Fri Apr 05, 2019 1:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What do you want in a relationship?
Replies: 2
Views: 218

Re: What do you want in a relationship?

Welcome to Scarleteen! Good question! I think the top three things that I tend to look for are: - communication flows relatively well (finding it easy to talk is a really good sign) - being accepting of what we might both want - being open to change (including the relationship coming to an end if it...
by Jacob
Thu Apr 04, 2019 4:49 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Talk show
Replies: 8
Views: 804

Re: Talk show

Have you made a contact with the station yet? I think it can be good to have one good contact who can be your 'in', then you don't have to make all-the-plans, you can just show up for the one person, or one event and go on from there... If not, what is the station? I'm happy to snoop around their we...
by Jacob
Thu Apr 04, 2019 4:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Lack of comfort
Replies: 21
Views: 1549

Re: Lack of comfort

Hi Lostand_found,

"Getting caught up in my head" is my middle name. But I guess sometimes we just need a reminder or a nudge in the right direction.

As you bought up the station, I've added another reply on your other thread here: viewtopic.php?f=17&t=8739
by Jacob
Thu Apr 04, 2019 4:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Parents
Replies: 17
Views: 711

Re: Parents

Happy to hear Scarleteen has been a helpful place softuris! It was great to see you figuring things out through this thread. Just to reiterate the 'not stupid' thing. I think it can be totally self-aware of you to listen to yourself when you felt ready for sex. Sometimes that is how we work out how ...
by Jacob
Thu Apr 04, 2019 4:30 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD’s
Replies: 2
Views: 214

Re: STD’s

Hi Dragon! Good question! It's super encouraging to hear you consider STI risks in addition to the Birth Control options you've put in place. I think we need more of that. The first thing for me to mention is that I (and we at Scarleteen) don't really use 'clean' to talk about people not having an S...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 6:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Risk
Replies: 1
Views: 410

Re: Risk

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 6:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Precum anf fingering
Replies: 1
Views: 427

Re: Precum anf fingering

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 6:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I need help...
Replies: 25
Views: 2247

Re: I need help...

That sounds really tough!

Can I ask this: how would you feel about letting go from this relationship with him?

It sounds like you could do with experiencing more of the love and support you are getting from your friends whereas he seems like he has his own needs.
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 6:34 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Emotional Abusive Relationship
Replies: 34
Views: 4367

Re: Emotional Abusive Relationship

Hey coolcats, I can't speak to those options, but it's no problem having someone genuinely seek support in my opinion. Have you used our chat service, too? It's not a replacement for therapy, but could maybe be helpful if you are looking for something that feels more immediate. I do Wednesday aftern...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 5:55 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I need help...
Replies: 25
Views: 2247

Re: I need help...

Hi Idontknow13, It's good to hear you are feeling better - You can say that! I still don't think you did anything wrong and it sounds like your boyfriend / ex is blaming you for how hurt they feel,and it makes sense that they feel pain, but that doesn't justify them blaming you. You were honest, res...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 5:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 4029

Re: ?

Hi unicyu, Just popping in here to say (very similarly to what Heather has already said!): It's not really helpful for us to re-answer how your experiences could be categorised, even less so in hypothetical terms... If anything, that could undermine a your agency. There are some things that it's no ...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 28, 2019 4:50 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Talk show
Replies: 8
Views: 804

Re: Talk show

Hey Lostand_found, Something that helps me greatly is to find a place where there are other people working on similar projects. I think small local community stations, or writing circles, or shared work-spaces who can need volunteers can be a great place to learn the process, hear other people's wor...
by Jacob
Sat Mar 23, 2019 2:21 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 4
Views: 526

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

I gotta try Imperial Radch Also I didn't really get the exodus fleet... and was relatively nonplussed about humans (because aliens are cool)... until the third book and it is so worth it you guys, I think it's the book I think about the most in that series! Currently I am reading Children of Blood a...
by Jacob
Fri Mar 22, 2019 3:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can my gf gets pregnant even if I don’t penetrate in
Replies: 1
Views: 310

Re: Can my gf gets pregnant even if I don’t penetrate in

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Jacob
Fri Mar 22, 2019 2:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Girls, am I right to be worried, or am I overreacting?
Replies: 1
Views: 641

Re: Girls, am I right to be worried, or am I overreacting?

Hey Chaz! A few things here... It sounds like the ways you and your friends have been playing games as you put it has been upsetting people, and they've shown real upset and anger. I don't think it's okay for anyone to hit anyone else, and it's worrying that that has become a normal thing. My challe...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 21, 2019 3:44 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: am I too weird?
Replies: 6
Views: 1151

Re: am I too weird?

Hi idontknowsexual! Stereotyping means talking about groups of people as if they are the same. So telling us that women never have a certain sexual preference, and that that is "a fact", fits firmly into what we mean when we say stereotyping. That's not really up for debate here. Feel free...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 21, 2019 12:10 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: sex and 13 year olds
Replies: 5
Views: 1690

Re: sex and 13 year olds

Hi Feistelj,

Did you read those two pieces Sam posted... did you find what was written there helpful?
by Jacob
Thu Mar 21, 2019 6:46 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 4
Views: 526

Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

Hey! So I don't think we've had many bookposts for while, here's mine: I recently got into reading more scifi... authors like Octavia Butler, Ursela Le Guin, etc One of my favourites was Woman on the Edge of Time by Marge Piercy I also just chomped through Becky Chambers' first three novels (the way...
by Jacob
Thu Mar 21, 2019 4:51 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex addiction
Replies: 3
Views: 571

Re: Sex addiction

Hi kitter, You say you 'recovered' from previous behaviour/habits. But it sounds like a lot of those have been bundled together in the umbrella of 'sex addiction' and labelled as harmful. I wonder if they actually are harmful at all! For example, here you talk about taking more interest in masturbat...

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