That event she was playing at on Friday has been cancelled because of Covid-19 so now I don't know how I'm going to tell her. I won't see her at uni either because in-person classes have been closed for the semester too, along with all clubs... I really, really want to tell her how I feel, this is c...

I'm not sure I do know the dynamics of our friendship. Our friendship has taken a lot of twists and turns and I can never figure out why, I don't even know how to describe how confusing it is. When I think things are going well, she suddenly doesn't respond to my messages for 2 weeks, and sometimes ...

That makes sense. Do you think that's something I could ask her about, after I tell her how I feel about her? How she thinks we should proceed with our friendship at that point? Also is it likely she won't want to be friends afterwards? I'm a little worried about that. Also, you've probably been ask...

Thanks Sam, you've helped a lot.

If I tell K about my feelings for her, do you know how I can go about keeping our friendship in-tact in the process and the time afterwards? (Assuming she doesn't feel the same way about me)

That's definitely not the reason I'm trying to remain friends with K. She's really cool and I feel like I can relate to her more than nearly anyone I've ever met. If we were really good friends, I totally would be fine if she never had feelings for me. I spend more time worrying about the health of ...

Hi Sam, If telling K about my feelings would make her more distant, wouldn't that imply that she would want to be more distant if she knew I had feelings for her? In other words, if that's the case, then the only reason she's not more distant already is just because she doesn't know the truth? Doesn...

Oh, I actually said I have *not* made a lot of progress with therapy. My therapist doesn't have a whole lot to say about it. She doesn't think I should just let my friendships slip away because they mean so much to me. She says even though people may find it harder to hang out sometimes (Like after ...

Hi again Scarleteen. I haven't been here in a while but I really need advice with something? I should give some background first. I'm sorry if this is a bit long. Last time I was here I talked a bit about how I struggle a lot with depression/self-harm and anxiety. I've been in therapy for over 2 yea...

Yeah that makes sense. Is there an age gap that's totally safe though where it's unlikely age would be the source of any issues at all? Would a 2 or 3 year age gap be safe from that stuff? Or is there definitively no problem-free (In terms of issues caused by age) age gap?

I try to be open about everything with my therapist but from what I gather, they don't think my situation is something that will resolve quickly. She said my 6 mental illnesses could take around a year to treat, each, but probably longer, and we're not even that far yet. And medication didn't work, ...

Oh okay. So as a hypothetical example, if one person was something like... 22, and the other was around 27-ish maybe, would that be reasonably normal or a bit of a stretch? I totally get what you mean about the teen thing. I read a post here about someone who was 13 with a guy who was 18 and that ma...

I just read the Scarleteen article "What's Age Got To Do With It?" and realised it's not something I thought about much since I haven't really socialised since finishing high school, where there were grade levels and everyone was sorted by age anyway. I imagine only considering people the ...

Hi Sam. Sorry for my communication blackout. My ability to function socially is waning. Yes, I've been seeing psychologists for about 5 months now I think. I've talked about some of this stuff yeah, but I've got a lot of mental health issues to work through (They diagnosed 6 before I even brought up...

I feel kind of embarassed now if I came across that way; I can control it, I don't just like... act on those thoughts compulsively even if I'm in public or something, but yeah maybe it was too habitual. I've avoided it for almost a week now though so I'll carry on and see if anything changes. I gues...

I hope this doesn't sound silly, but I stopped wearing shorts. My school has this dress code where you could only wear either knee-length shorts (Which were only for "boys" according to the school), skirts (Which were only for "girls" according to the school), or these thick, lon...

I've learned how much I don't know about myself! That may sound... not very helpful, but it's actually encouraged me to think about things that I kind of shyed away from for a long time, so I can start adressing them, which is good! At the very least I feel more honest with myself in terms of gender...

I don't understand how this is happening; the world feels like some kind of fictional dystopia sometimes. This is really personal stuff that, outside of certain medical examinations, is nobody else's business. Why do so many people support this administration? Why don't they care? I hope things impr...

I don't think I communicated the problem so well before actually, sorry. It's not so much that sexual thoughts and feelings are present all the time, but rather that they're there frequently, multiple times a day, and they make me uncomfortable. I can't explain why, but for some seemingly arbitrary ...

I'll read the article, thank you. I've never seen it before. If I step back from it, nothing really changes. My thoughts and arousal just keep on distressing me until I usually give in, just to get a few hours of peace. Even after a week of avoiding it, nothing seems to improve. I don't want to have...

Hey Sam. That's a difficult question to answer. I don't think that sex is bad, and even though I'm gray-asexual I think I might like to try it some day if a partner asked me, but... yes, it definitely causes me discomfort about how I think about myself. I often feel varying degrees of guilt or shame...

Hey again Scarleteen. (I was danny101 before but I changed my name :) ) I know that there's nothing wrong with having a high sex drive but... I feel like I just get annoyed by mine. I could masturbate and it would go away for a while, but then it would just be back again in an hour or less. Then I c...

I could be wrong, but considering that he usually wants things to be sexual whenever he's with you, and that he ghosts you when it is more about... just friendship, kind of suggests he only wants the sex part and not the friend part, regardless of what he claimed. If you find after another attempt o...

I totally resonate with everything you just said! With how I was confusing myself with the anatomy stuff (But I'm not confused about it anymore, I get that genitals don't matter. Thank you for clarifying it and also saying I don't need to feel embarassed), and also your lunch analogy is really infor...

You're right, I didn't mean to get caught up with the whole genitals thing, what you said totally makes sense. The person is all that matters, not their anatomy, I guess I was just figuring it out still but I'm not confused about it anymore. I didn't mean to seem like I'm fixated on the subject haha...

Sorry that I'm not doing a very good job at describing things hah, I'm still sorta confused. Being gray ace/demi makes it harder for me to tell too much because it filters a lot of sexuality out sometimes. Maybe I should just forget about it and not bother with a label?